(Closed) WWYD? Dropping out of a wedding, bride wants the bridesmaid dress given to her

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
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281 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh hell to the no! If she wants the dress, she can pay for it. But if I were in your shoes, I would just keep it. What a nutso. Sheesh. I thought this wedding abomination of the Bridezilla only existed on TV.  

Post # 48
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878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think its fresh that she said she doesn’t want the new bridesmaid to pay for it seeing as she is asking her to be part of the wedding party…..but hold on I’m assuming she asked you as well.  I bet you didn’t chuck a tantrum and demand to be included!!!

Personally I wouldnt give it or lend it to her on principal.  And if you do lend it to her I bet you wouldnt get it back anyway!! I could see it accidently on purpose going missing.

I see the options as either
1 she pays for it,
2 if you think its cute and you can wear it elsewhere then great enjoy it!!!
3 Advertise it in the classifieds of Weddingbee

Post # 49
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825 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’d say def. dont’ give her the dress. That’s ridiculous, she has 9 other bridesmaids!! And if she needed even numbers, say for the Fiance side too, then she can pay for her 10th bm or have the other girl pay for it…it’s not like the other bm paid for the bridal shower or bachelorette party.

Post # 50
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1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

The bride is absolutely in the wrong. If the bridesmaid buys her own dress, the bride has no say in what happens to it since it is the sole property of the bridesmaid. Don’t give in to her at all. Let her know she is being unreasonable and move on. Karma will catch up to her so don’t waste any more energy on her than you have to.

Post # 51
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505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

There were too many comments to read what everyone else said, so if I repeat something, I’m sorry.

First of all, its ridiculous IMO that the bridal shower and the bachelorette party are costing so much.  Since when is spending that much money a requirement to be in someone’s wedding?  Your friend should definitely understand your financial situation and not expect so much of you.

Secondly, how can she really believe she has a right to a dress that you bought?  If she feels it necessary to pay for the 10th bridesmaids dress, then she can pay for it, not expect you to hand it over.  This is just really frustrating to me, it sounds like a major Bridezilla situation and you are probably lucky you got out when you did.  Like I said, if she wants to replace you, that’s not your responsibility.  I think you dropped out for a valid reason and you might want to rethink your friendship.  Obviously she doesn’t really know the meaning of the word.

Good Luck!

Post # 52
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160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

soooo glad I’m not friends with girls like this – I would not only keep the dress but make sure you wear it somewhere where you know she will be!  And look fabulous in it :o) 

Post # 53
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248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

It’s your dress. Period. The whole point was money and that’s why you dropped out-what makes her think you are going to give another girl a free dress?! crazy! I think you are right to offer the dress if she pays you…otherwise…KEEP IT! 

Post # 54
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1011 posts
Bumble bee

I’m with pink stripes.  She’s doing this to make you feel bad.  Since she had offered to subsidize you, why can’t she extend the same courtesy to the new Bridesmaid or Best Man.  I really think she’s just being spiteful, knowing that you already felt bad about dropping out.  She’s now being emotionally abusive toward you.  Stop taking her calls and block her emails.

Post # 55
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125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

What?!! That is crazy. She is a nutjob…good luck to the guy she is marrying!

Post # 56
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529 posts
Busy bee

OMG I totally remember your original post and I am so glad you are out of that mess! Can you call the new girl directly? Bypass crazy bride, and explain your situation in neutral terms (i.e. you don’t feel right because your mom paid for it, etc.) Chances are, she’ll be happy not to have to order another dress.

Post # 57
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165 posts
Blushing bee

WWID?  Hang up the dress in my closet for keeps and spend the night of her wedding with my Fiance dreaming about our future together.

Post # 59
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83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

It’s your dress don’t even consider giving it to her. Tell her you’ve already altered it and made it presentable for another occasion and her new Bridesmaid or Best Man will just have to buy her own dress, like you did.

Post # 60
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96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

She’s ridiculous. If she wants the dress, she should pay for it. There’s no reason why you should give the dress to her for free.

Post # 61
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would have been truly evil and put it up on my local craigs list- and directed her there

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