(Closed) WWYD – gift etiquette

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you send a gift?

    Yes. Wedding gift and shower gift.

    Yes. Wedding gift only.

    No. Send a card instead.

  • Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    • This reply was modified 7 years ago by  shanbp.
    • This reply was modified 7 years ago by  shanbp.
    Post # 17
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    HelpfulMarriedGirl:  sorry… my above post had a bunch of symbols in it… no idea what thats from….. but here goes

    I have never met this girl and I literally haven’t seen my friend for 6 years!  Doesn’t this seem odd to you?

    So….. if you havent seen this guy in 6 years, how exactly is he still your friend/how do you keep in touch? through email/FB?<br />I wouldnt really be too concerned…. if they are not in your life I dont think anyone will be holding a grudge lol. I would maybe feel somewhat similar and send a very small gift with a card …. If you havent seen this guy in 6 years and have never met the finace why the heck are they inviting you to the shower? That does seem odd to me and seems like a total gift grab.<br /><br />I could understand the shower if you were like besties with this guy and you were frequently in eachothers lives but….<br /> <br />If you want to make sure he knows you care you can just send a heartfelt card alone or with a gift worth 25-50 bucks max off their registry.

    Post # 18
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    HelpfulMarriedGirl: Through the most of your post I was 100% in the camp of “send them a gift”. I’ve only been invited to one wedding that we couldn’t attend, so then it felt even more important to be able to participate at least by the means of a gift – showing that we cared and were happy for them. 

    However, I have to agree with shanbp: that the fact that you’ve not seen this guy for 6 years and never meet his wife to be is complicating the matter. You want to remain friends, yet there seems to be very little/no interaction. If I were you I would stick to the book that you’ve already got and just write a nice card to go along with it.

    Post # 19
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    HelpfulMarriedGirl:  My guess is that all the women invited to the wedding were invited to the shower, I’ve been to showers like this – that way no one is offended they weren’t invited.

    I would only send a wedding gift – the amount is up to your comfort level.  For me it always depends on how close I am to the person getting married.

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