- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
I am inviting a lot of my coworkers to the wedding. All of the coworkers that I am inviting worked for the company when I got engaged (July) and have received Save the Dates (September). I LOVE my company and have been there 6.5 years, it is like a second family to me.
A lot of people work remotely, but our office has about 14 employees in it. I worked at the office until a year ago, when I moved away and went remote. At the time I got engaged, 3 of those employees reported to me, and they are all invited to the wedding.
We hired two more employees who report to me after that, we’ll call them Sarah (September Part-Time) and Nicole (October, Full-Time). I currently have NOT invited them to the wedding, but they are the only 2 out of the office staff that are not invited. I like them, but they were just very new when I was making the invitation list.
Nicole is going to be moving into a different role next month and will no longer report directly to me, although we’ll still work together a lot.
Sarah is kind of a loose cannon. I don’t want to go into details, but she is a little unstable and I’m not sure if she’s going to be around for the long term… it wouldn’t shock me if one day she just up and quit, but it also is totally possible she’ll be around for years. She’s just totally unpredictable (and hence why she has been kept Part-Time). If she got fired and was invited to the wedding, I wouldn’t be surprised if she still showed up, and that would be awkward.
I feel like I should invite them since the other 12 people in the office are invited. The other wrench in this is that we’re going to be hiring another 2 – 3 people in the next month (1 who will report to me, a couple that won’t). Where do I draw the line? Obviously I wouldn’t want to invite those people, but again we’re back at the situation of… some people on my team/in the office won’t be invited.
Thoughts? I’d be happy to have Nicole and Sarah at the wedding (as long as Sarah is stable that day and keeps her drinking in check… and that is a legit concern), but I also haven’t known them very long. They’ll have been with the company 7 months at the time of the wedding – short enough that they shouldn’t expect to be invited, but long enough where they are “part of the office family” by that time.
If it makes a difference, the wedding is also 2.5 hours away, it is not local to the office. I am sending invitations in 3 weeks (so not a lot of time to wait to see how things develop) and the RSVP date is March 1.