(Closed) x-post — The flattering one or the one with the style I like? (long)

posted 8 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I wish that I could offer you some advice or insight, but I went through the EXACT same thing (although, I am a few sizes larger than you). I too, have a problematic waistline and a short torso, which is further complicated by having a large bust. For me, it’s nice to know that I’m not alone, but I know it’s a tough decision because for most women their dress is a big part of “the feel” of the wedding.

I’m still waiting for my dress. I ordered it based on a picture. No salons in my area had a sample of the dress, let alone a size I could reasonably fit into. Still, I ordered a dress with the silhouette that is supposed to be universally flattering to bigger women (a-line, waist rouching, etc.). I can  only hope that it will be flattering because it is not at all the style that I -really- want. Like you, I love the fun feel of a dress with a full skirt and pockets. I absolutely love the detail like that on the bust of your Serena, but I was fearful that adding anything to that area would just make the ladies look bigger (booo!).

I ordered my “flattering dress” about three months ago and now that I’ve lost about 30 pounds, I’m even more anxious because now I am thinking  “hmm, maybe I could have gotten away with another style and still felt like I looked good.”

Anyways, thanks sharing your story and I’m sorry I vented a bit on you. Like I said, it’s just nice to know that someone can relate. I wish you the clarity to make the decision that you think will be best for you and I wish you peace of mind after you make the decision so that you don’t spend the rest of the time before your wedding doubting your decision!

Post # 5
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I er on the side of what’s most flattering. What I like isn’t always what looks good on me (hello trendy clothing!) and, well, I like to look good =].

Oh, yeah, the Amsale Serena is not a dress that would look good on me, I can already tell you. It’s your choice, but I personally er on the side of “hm, what looks good on me” and go with that versus trendy stuff.

Post # 6
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree with ejs4y8.  There’s lots of clothes that I wish I could wear but I know they won’t look good on me.  If it was me I would probably search until I find something that you love and that is flattering.

Post # 7
25 posts
  • Wedding: April 2011

You know I went through something somewhat similar. I fell in love with this dress and was so in love with it, but then when I tried it on I realized that no amount of love was going to make it flattering on me. The alternative at the time was another dress that looked better, but didn’t make me feel that FEELING. So here is what I suggest…keep looking. I know it is a pain and slightly disheartening, but there are sooo many dresses out there and you can have it both ways. You can feel beautiful and like this is my dress and have it be flattering. It is very much like looking for the “one” you are going to marry. You can go through some that look perfect, but don’t fit and then eventually you find that one that makes you glow and fits perfectly. I ended up with a dress I didn’t think I would like even and when I put it on it was flattering and I felt like a princess. Don’t loose hope!

Post # 8
1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yes, I agree that you should keep looking. I fell in love with this dress:


and it didn’t work for me at all.

This dress flattered me perfectly:


But this I loved, flattered me, and I bought it! Don’t lose hope ok?



But if you totally are in love with Serena, I say get it!

Post # 9
2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

keep shopping! Have you tried to find elements of the dress you like in other dresses? I don’t know what the price point of an amsale dress is, but I reccomend looking at maggie sottero. Her corset back is not only good for the waist- it saves money on alterations too.

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