Post # 1
Hello Wedding Bee Folks,
I just did a search online for this topic, and your boards came up, so I joined 🙂
Well, I just found out that my exboyfriend’s current girlfriend has broken up with him because of a problem with gambling. She is probably annoyed b/c it happened a few times. So, then I have recently been told by another friend (who sent 2 links to me) that he was recently at some adult convention and was stupid enough to post a video of how he spoke to and interviewed some girls, as they bent over for him (sorry to be rude, but that’s what it was)
Here”s the question, finally! : Should I send the two links to the current/ kinda broken up girl friend? I dont want to be the “last nail in the coffin” of what is already messed up, but I think any woman deserves to know the truth!
Please let me know your thoughts- Im just afraid to send it, with reprocussions that could happen towards me.
Post # 3
What reason would you have to send it? They’ve already broken up.
Post # 4
I can’t see that what he does or doesn’t do is any of your business. I would back off.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I wouldn’t be spreading that sort of material to anyone. She already broke up with him; let it be. Not your problem any more!
Post # 6
Agree, this is no business of yours and you should stay out of it.
Post # 7
No. Don’t send it. You would just be creating more drama. It’s not your business.
Post # 8
@Almost20Years: i don’t think it’s any of your business. just be thankful that he’s your ex.
Post # 9
@Almost20Years: I would leave it. Their relationship is over, and sending those links would be of no benefit to anyone.
Post # 10
Why do you even care? It’s your ex. Move on and leave it alone. It’s not your problem.
Post # 11
Im sorry it took me two days to get back on here! THank you all for your advice! The reason I felt it was important to tell her is because this girl is sadly unaware of these other things and is about to seriously consider getting back together, and I felt it was a good thing to save her from more pain, and since she doesn’t seem to “get it” that he is bad news, this would be proof..
Perhaps I should let her find out herself, but if I were in her shoes, I wouldve hoped someone told me!!!
I guess no one here feels that way, and maybe this is better to turn a blind eye- but waht happened to “sticking together” as women? Or justice? or pointing out a “DOG” to an unknowing girl…??
If there are no more comments, Im fine with that, I will heed what you say, b/c everyone here seems to agree and maybe there’s just something Im missing…
At least , address the “woudlnt YOU want to know part”…. thanks!
I hope you will all see this, or should I cut n paste it into all of your inboxes, I mnew at this , sorry.. well, perhaps you’ll look again ? 🙂
Post # 12
If you had never dated your ex, it might be justified to send those links. But he’s your ex, so any interfering in his business with other women looks like petty bitchery.
Post # 13
I would stay as far away from my ex as possible. Sending her this link may be perceived as you being involved in their relationship.
Post # 14
@Almost20Years: If she was a friend, I’d do it in a heartbeat. But not a stranger. I think getting that stuff from a stranger is weird. I believe “sticking together” (as you put it) with friends. But not just because we’re the same gender.
If you have a shared friend, you could mention it to her and see what she thinks.
Post # 15
sorry for being clueless on this thread thing, I dont konw if any of you will even be notified so I put my reply in your inboxes… I will be online after Tuesday if you happen to reply.
Post # 16
@Almost20Years: The best way to notify people is to click on the “reply” button for each of them. Like I just did for you. Then each name will appear with an “@” sign in your reply.
But in any case, I suspect most people will see the thread has been updated, and take a look, even if you don’t do that.