(Closed) Yay I’m now a wife…. Great Ceremony Horrible Reception : (

posted 7 years ago in Recaps
Post # 4
29 posts

I’m so sorry this happened to you 🙁 That was so rude of them! Not really sure as to what advice to give, because it seems like calling them out on it won’t be constructive as your Mother-In-Law doesn’t seem like she would be one to apologize. I know it’s not rewarding and I can totally understand wanting them to stand up for their actions, but I’d try to just take the high road and be the better person because it seems like they’re the kind of people to not see any fault in what they did. Hope you find a solution, sorry you have to deal with this, especially on your wedding day!

Post # 5
7693 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@emersynsmommy35: Wow!  I don’t think I would talk to them ever again!!!  I’m glad that you had a wonderful honeymoon.

Post # 6
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

WOW. That really sucks, I’m sorry. Something about weddings tends to bring out the worst in people. I know it’s cliche, but you’re just as married as you would have been had everyone kept their dignity about them, and hopefully none of this will ruin your wedding pictures.

Post # 7
1944 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry you went through all this but I was thinking the entire time I was read, until you got the end, “Where in the hell is your husband at in all this?!” Did he not stand up for you or say anything the whole time? I’m sorry but he should have been dealing with the BIL and Father-In-Law and the drinking.

Post # 8
10714 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh that’s so sad what your family had to deal with, I’d be terribly upset but I can’t give any advice besides tell them how upset you are and talk to your family about it too… I’m so sorry about your reception but at least the ceremony was wonderful and you missed the rain! Plus the honeymoon went well!

Post # 9
4014 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Im so sorry! I do agree that there isnt much you can do now to fix it, BUT you Darling Husband sure as hell can speak to his family about this! I dont recall reading to many of your other posts having to do with your Darling Husband family but do they have something against you? What is their PROBLEM?? Im so sorry that your mother missed a portion of the reception and there is no excuse IMO for why your in-laws couldnt help do anything at all! And your BIL?!?! It was a WHOLE 10 minutes that he had to put down his beer to join the toast, and he makes THAT big a deal out of it? And mocks your mother? That I dont understand and I thinks its childish and completely rude.

Im so glad you enjoyed your honeymoon! You deserved it! How is your daughter doing now??

Post # 11
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

to be honest it sounds like there was a lot of hard work/many hands needed and i wouldnt feel comfortable asking invited guests to do this because the proof is in the vent, you were badly let down

remind yourself you love and married your husband – you cant control his crazy family so have very little expectation from them in future, they proved themselves to be flakey and disrespectful.   im sorry your mom was injured by trying to make your day special, extra hugs to both of you

Post # 14
166 posts
Blushing bee

@emersynsmommy35:  Oh you poor dear!  Your hubby definitely needs to have a talk with both his parents and his brother.  It won’t do any good for you to say anything to them.  I was happy to read that your husband moved 2 hours to be with you, that’s 2 hours distance between you and THEM.  THAT is a GOOD thing.  I have inlaws like yours, they never liked me, never gave me a chance.  I’m glad you don’t live near them because when you have children, it only gets worse.  (That is, if they are interested in grandchildren).  My Mother-In-Law made my life absolutely miserable after we had a child.  It took many years of her crap for my husband to stand up to them but trust me, once he had his fill, he took care of them.  It has now been a nice peaceful 10 years without them in our lives.  He cut them off completely.  You can only hope for that I suppose.  I’m sorry they ruined your memories of what should have been a perfect day.

Post # 15
3175 posts
Sugar bee

That totally sucks, and honestly I have no advice except to keep your interactions with your inlaws to a minimum. They sound like terrible, selfish, stuck up people. 

Post # 16
1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

OMG… I am soooo sorry to hear all of this mess happened at your reception.  That is really just unbelievable.  I don’t know how you stopped yourself from becoming violent, girl!  If I caught ANYONE talking to my mom like that, it would be alllll the way on, in my wedding dress and all.  And I’m not a fighter at all.. but my mom is my world and I just can’t even process the thought of something like that happening.

But I agree with a few other posters, your hubby needs to talk to his family.  This is unacceptable.  Though, I probably wouldn’t have been expecting them to help with decorating or cleaning or anything in the first place, since you said that they don’t like you.  I know your hubs said that they wouldn’t be like this on wedding day, but I would have never believed that.  People that are jackasses usually fulfill this role at all times.

But again, I’m so sorry this happened to you, dear.  I am happy that your ceremony was lovely, as that’s the most important part anyway. 

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