Post # 1
I was talking to my makeup artist yesterday and I was telling her how an ex-coworker of mine was extended a +1 but only sent the reply card with his name only, and only after I had completed the seating chart, made the place cards etc does he decide to tell me that he is in fact, bringing a date. Basically just venting to her.
She then asks me “You have me included in your seating chart right?” I froze up because, ummm no I don’t. I really wasn’t intending on her staying past the ceremony (she is doing make-up touch-ups immediately after for the photos). She then asks why didn’t she receive her invitation? I replied with, well we have a contract sooo I am pretty sure that you know the date.
It’s too late to work her in, we are currently at capacity and I don’t know what to do. I was not even aware that you were SUPPOSED to do this!
What can I do? Is this normal and did I just royally screw up everything?
Post # 3
@MrsRedPumps: uuu seems like she just invited herself and then you went along with it. IS she a friend, do you hang out other than at the salon? If not, be honest. Remind her that she is a VENDOR!
Post # 4
@MrsRedPumps: The makeup artist doesn’t get a seat at the reception for dinner, drinks and dancing, she is hired help. My hairdresser and makeup artist were not at my reception for cocktail, dinner etc. The only vendors at my reception were the DJ and Photographers.
Post # 5
@Atalanta: No, she is a friend of a friend. We have never hung out but she is a legitimate make-up artist with a salon and everything. I just wasn’t aware if I did something wrong and if it was customary to have your make-up artist stay all night.
I, of course worked in my photog and videographer but not her. I don’t mind telling her that she doesn’t need to stay past the ceremony but I wanted to make sure that she wasn’t supposed to before I told her so.
Post # 6
@mishagirls79: Ok whew! I thought I messed up!
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
Um, no, she is not to have a seat at the wedding or reception. The only people that will receive vendor meals are our photographer.
Post # 8
It’s definitely not the norm for your hairstylist and make-up artist to be there, although mine was, since he also is a very dear friend.
Also, vendors who are being fed during your reception usually do not sit with the wedding guests when they have their meals. The venue generally accommodates them in a separate area.
Post # 9
@MrsRedPumps: only vendors with plates for me is the wedding planner, photographer, and DJ
Post # 10
Hello, I am sorry to bud in this conversation but while we are discussing who’s invited and who is not, I just got an email from the musician I’m thinking of hiring for the ceremony-reception and he mentionned about taking breaks to eat and so forth; I don’t know the guy at all but am i suppose to pay for his diner. Having him for the 30 minute wedding ceremony and part of the reception is very expensive but I didn’t know I was to pay for his meal? Any idea what you all would do? thank you
Post # 11
@Lauraine: I play in a string quartet and we usually play the ceremony and at the reception, and never expect to be fed. we have had couples in the past feed us, but it is the exception, not the rule. We provide a service and are paid for that service with a prearranged fee. I know some quartets who ask to be fed, but that should be clearly outlined before booking. Hope that is some help 🙂
Post # 12
@Lauraine: If they’re working for you, they need to be fed. That’s just polite. All of my vendors are eating (and sitting) where the guests eat & sit.
If you don’t feed your DJ, he will leave to feed himself. If you’re okay with him potentially leaving the premesis to do so (No music?) then by all means, don’t feed him.
It is rather polite and makes you a good, gracious host, however.
Post # 13
The only vendors who usually get an invitation are the officiant, along with their spouse, or friendors.
If you invite the makeup artist, why not the baker, florist, person who sets up linens, limo driver, hairstylists, dress consultant, etc?
If people are working through the reception, they get fed, but they aren’t invited with a paper invitation, and don’t need to be seated with guests, although I did for the photographer.
Post # 14
umm no she step over the line
Post # 15
Omg what is going on with these vendors asking to be invited to the wedding and demanding to be fed lol.
@AB Bride: +1
If they’re working the entire time, they should be fed. Most catering companys/venues have a separate price for the vendors. They get a break, they get to eat, then they go back to work. They do not sit with everyone else and party. They are hired help, not invitees to the wedding. LOL.. I can’t believe your MUA invited herself – except you said you were venting to her, so I don’t know if maybe she thinks you’re her friend? Were you venting during a MU trial or do you actually talk to this friend of a friend on a regular basis? Is she doing the MU for free or a greatly discounted price?
Post # 16
@MrsRedPumps: I’m sure you’ll have some no shows, if you still feel bad about it let her stay. But IMO she invited herself.