(Closed) Yeesh, goofed on the invite. How early is too early?

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I actually sent mine 4 months before the wedding because I wanted to be sure everyone knew about it well in advance (my wedding is 2 weeks after Christmas).  And I had my RSVP deadline as November 1 even though my wedding is January 9.  My FFIL’s side of the family is making me wait until exactly a month before the wedding because they don’t like my RSVP deadline, though.  (I made it that deadline so I wouldn’t be stressing about RSVPs at the end of the semester like I am now.)  People will likely totally ignore the deadline anyway and send in their RSVPs whenever they feel like it.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

I say send them and get the majority of responses back, then you can send chasers to people who don’t reply. XD

I don’t think it’s ever “to early” to be honest; people will either make the time for you or they won’t. That’s just me though, and the British seem to have strangely relaxed etiquette on these things…

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

I don’t think you need to get them reprinted. Send them a little earlier, and then you can extend the deadline at a future date. You can also have the later date listed on your wedding website if you choose to have one. 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The problem with sending them that early, people have the time to forget to respond, or not know their full schedules.

As someone who cares very much about traditional etiquette, I would reprint them.  But this stuff matters to me more than it does to others.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Is this something that can be fixed by printing a sticker to cover the date to the one you want? I think 4 months is too far out unless the wedding coincides with a major holiday or is a Destination Wedding. 

Post # 8
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Worker bee

I would eat the mistake and have them reprinted.

3 months is way too far in advance for RSVPS – a lot can change and you don’t want to plan costs around numbers that might change closer to the date.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2015

People expect weddings to follow pretty much the same format so probably your guests will think that 3 months is a little far in advance because hardly any other wedding had a deadline that far in advance and they’ll just make up their own deadline. You may have to chase them when your actual deadline approaches. But the world will still turn, your friends will still love you and you’ll still have an awesome wedding.

So my advice is to keep your existing invites. Don’t spend any more $ on something 25% of your guests will lose anyway, and another 25% won’t even read and instead decide to send you constant texts asking where and when your wedding is the week before (yep, that’s a tiny bit of bitterness from my own wedding, but the rest of my advice is sound!)

Good luck 🙂 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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windwillows:  Oh just send them, stuff it! If someone asks, you can explain.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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windwillows:  You shouldn’t even send invites until 2 months before the wedding at the earliest (6-8 weeks is “proper”). Asking for a committment 3 months in advance is too soon, I think. I’d reprint. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I would definitely reprint those. I think its unrealistic to expect people to RSVP that far out. I’ve rarely seen an RSVP more than 2-3 weeks before the wedding. A month is the longest I’ve seen.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I just received an invite and the RSVP date is 3.5 months before the wedding. I have no problem responding that early. If I didn’t know my availabilities yet, I would have called to say that I’ll know if I can come by X date. 

For my own invitations, I didn’t sent out 2 of them until after the deadline (oops). I just added a little insert saying that there was a printing mistake and the deadline is actually X. Maybe you could do that if you’re really worried?

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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windwillows:  I would send them as is, in the normal time frame,but I would have a little business card printed to include that acknowledged the error and gave the real rsvp date.

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