(Closed) Yelled at my grandma

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I know crabby people can be frustrating, but yes next time back slowly away and don’t yell back. She’s just doing it to get a rise out of you. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

my grandmother has acted like that my entire life.  on every little detail of anything.

just don’t let her get to you.  and don’t take it personally.  it’s easier said then done, i know, but try.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Sounds like my grandma…

Just try to ignore her and keep it moving. In fact, when she says something, say something nice and remove yourself from the situation so you don’t have to deal with her.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It’s okay to be angry when people say hurtful things about something that is so important to you – even when it’s your grandmother. My case is pretty extreme but I finally realized it was just fine not to love my father’s mother. I wasn’t raised near her and we’ve never had a close emotional concection. The straw that broke the camel’s back was her making comments about “lazy Mexican and colored people” in front of my Latino fiance. I just looked at her and thought, “Wow. I don’t like you. At all. And that’s okay.” Personally, I’d be thrilled to attend a beach wedding, sounds like a great time.

ETA – Please forgive the typos. I plead post finals eye strain.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

Since no one knows her personally except you, is it possible she’s just pointing out some possible outcomes to make you see what may become a problem? It seems to me that it’s a rare B&G that gets married in their hometown anymore where it’s the most convenient for many family members that still live close by, so the fact that people will have to travel a distance does mean some won’t make the trip. It’s just a fact, and maybe she thinks you didn’t think it all the way through. Unless she’s always been a nasty person, I can’t imagine she’s saying these things to upset you.

The people that want to be there will come, so try and enjoy your planning!

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