(Closed) Yep, I’m definitely PMSing – massive vent- DH going out for drinks without me :(

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’ve TOTALLY done what you just did… only it was about going to a movie. I felt the same way you did and after the fight that came later that night Darling Husband (then FI) assured me that he pretty  much would always want me around unless it was a specifc guys thing ie. Mens conference. lol

What I learned….

Go ahead and text him back that you changed your mind, am feeling better (since you were feeling kinda insecure/jealous) and you’d like to join if there’s still room or they’re still gonna be a little while.

Get ready… and go.

Let it go that he didn’t call.. and if it comes up apologize for not just being upfront about it in the beginning.

Have a nice time and enjoy πŸ˜‰

Post # 4
13096 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010


I understand exactly where you are right now.  Aunt flo is here for me (which is always when I’m personally most pissy) and, until last night, I hadn’t seen Darling Husband in close to 2 weeks.  If he went out without me (and was fine spending a good chunk on the evening away from me even though he’d hardly been back home with me), I’d be a bit upset too.

I can totally see his side too though.  And I’m a little sad today because Darling Husband vetoed my idea for us to go to the $1.50 theatre tonight because he wanted to stay in.  Guess it where all the “marriage is about compromise” stuff comes in! πŸ™‚

ETA: I definitely agree that you should message him back and tell him you’ve changed your mind and would like to join him.  I’m sure he’d love for you to be there!

Post # 5
3367 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@oracle:  Oh, don’t we all want our man to be a mind-reader sometimes?  You sound like you already have insight into it and I am just so sorry it happened!  Would you still want to go after all… would you be able to enjoy the evening with him (referencing the Jane thing)?

Post # 6
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think you should go, it sounds like he would be happy if you’d join him.  I think it is really sweet that even after you decline he still indicates he’d like you there.

The texts about it being an option were really confusing I can see how that might have led to some misunderstanding.

Hope you feel better and get to spend a lot of time with Darling Husband this weekend!


Post # 7
4 posts

get ready and tell him that you rather just go than to stay  … i have done this before and just to sit at home by myself watching movies and thinking how inmature of me to play lil games … trust me …. just go πŸ˜‰


Post # 8
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Since you know how dumb you just acted instead of fuming your PMS’ing ass off, pick up the phone and call him.

Tell him sorry, mis understood conversation and fully admit to being a dummie, fess up like a grown up. Tell him to have fun, and that you’ll be waiting to enjoy him once he gets home.

Self admitting is one thing… owning up to the other partner is something entirely different.

Post # 9
3520 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think you should go too!  Get all gussied up and have a good time!

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