- 9 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
She sure did. And then she tried to ask me whether she should wear her ring or not! She said she didn’t say yes, but the ring is at her home and sitting on her dining room table.
So my mom was all giggly when she told me (acting again like the 15 year old she has behaved like for so long). She told me to not mention it to my sister. I said I wouldn’t that it was HER job to inform the family.
She’s been a wierdly behaving woman since she became a widow a little over 10 years ago since my dad passed and she began dating, like less than 6 months later, her old high school boyfriend, who is the guy who finally asked her to marry him.
She asked me “when” could she get married? I said “not within 3 weeks of my wedding and anything else is fine by me.” I honestly can’t decide if I’m happy for her or not. This is a guy who has done anything BUT encourage her to be a good grandmother and remain involved in our lives. My mom also told us untruths when she began dating him saying he was also a widower and that his former wife had passed from cancer (a very serious topic to me b/c I work with cancer patients and lost a friend to breast ca last year) and we found out he’d been married one more time than she told us (this is either his 3rd or 4th marriage and has no kids) , and that his former wife was alive and well, living in Tx. Thus, this guy didn’t sit well with us as our mom became a stranger in the last 9 years basically. I hear from her all the time via phone, but she hasn’t come to see me in a few years (even with me offering a plane ticket) and my sister lives 1.5 hours away from her.
The last time I saw her, I took her on vacation with me and my son, flying her to the destination we were at (Jekyll Island GA) and spent alot on her.
So I got a mombrizezilla. Ain’t a good thing I can say. And her coming to my wedding bringing the dude that’s been a negative factor in her life isn’t a good thing either. My sis and I are always ladies, so we won’t negatively react at all to her, but the nerve. She is suddenly happy about my wedding, “can’t wait to go” and is so excited about shopping for “her dress”. So she is basically going to unveil (pardon the word pun) the fact she’s engaged at my wedding. NOT cool.
I plan to let everybody know before hand so there is no shock. She is going to show up, try to act like other families do and other moms do when they’re the mom of the bride and yet I am just dumbfounded at all of it. All of her antics. She just has her own little world (basically having a midlife crisis of sorts the last 10 years) and has show dogs and dotes on a new puppy. Geez it would be nice if she doted or cared about her grandkids.
My vent is over. Off the soapbox. I gots a mombridezilla.