- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I tried on my dress yesterday, and spent the rest of the day bummin out.
It’s gorgeous. It fits (almost) perfectly. But it’s too formal for our rock-n-roll bar-venue non-traditional informal event. I think I might have gotten so swept up in the moment of the sparkle and the princess-like beauty of the dress, plus the amazing price, that I forgot how it was going to look against the backdrop of the rest of our day. I now think it’s going to look out of place.
It was a final sale, so there’s no taking it back to the shop. It was a sample, and has some flaws that I intended to fix (missing beads, pulled threads), and needs a cleaning, so it’s not as easy as just getting my money back if I sold it on craigslist or something.
I just started a weight loss contest with my co-workers, and already knew that on top of needing the bust tightened up a bit, so I’ll end up needing to have it taken in overall. Plus, it really does need to be hemmed at least 2″ (this is the reason I tried it on yesterday, to see the hem length). Then I thought, what if I take some of this crinoline out to de-douf it, have the train pretty much removed, and maybe even have the dress made into a tealength, then I’d have a dress more suited to our day. But..we’re talking big bucks to do all that I think, and I’m probably looking at more money in alterations than I spent on the dress itself. I’m a budget bride, so whichever way I go, I’m spending more than I can realistically afford.
When we first got engaged, I half-joked that I was going to wear a black lace dress, something I could wear again, and that was the polar opposite of traditional (my beau is wearing a red suit, btw). It’s what I initially set out to find, and I am almost wishing I had stuck to that.
So, the question is, keep it, spend a buncha money on alterations to make it a dress I love, or start looking for a new dress? Either way I realize I screwed up by buying this dress.
Here’s the dress…it’s beautiful, like I said, but is it’s the ONLY formal, traditional, sparkly thing about our day: