(Closed) Yes, ANOTHER bridesmaid dress issue!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What's the best way to have Bridesmaid #3 in a dress?
    Put her in a dress that she doesn't really like, but which matches the other girls' (color wise) : (11 votes)
    37 %
    Change the color of all the dresses to purple : (14 votes)
    47 %
    Have her pick a gray dress from anoth designer and hope the color matches with the other dresses. : (5 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
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    829 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I voted to have her pick a gray dress… good luck!

    Post # 4
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    4466 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    This is a tough one.  I would say either change the colors to purple (if no one else minds) or have her pick a dress she doesn’t really “like” in gray.

    I would not have her pick a dress from a different designer because I just feel that wouldn’t really work out.

    Post # 6
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    2463 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    different shades of gray look way different–i was thinking of doing gray dresses at first and saw a bunch. for the other 2 options, it’s really a priority call–i’d rather have all my girls be comfortable and switch to a different color, but it’s what’s important to you.

    Post # 7
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    2634 posts
    Sugar bee

    I don’t think it’s fair to put her in a dress that she doesn’t like.  Yes it is your wedding, but she’ll be in that dress for hours and hours and if she is uncomfortable it will show in your pictures and she’ll just all around have a bad time.  NOT GOOD.

    I voted to change the dresses to purple.

    Post # 9
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    1765 posts
    Buzzing bee

    What if the Bridesmaid or Best Man all wore either the one that Bridesmaid or Best Man1 or Bridesmaid or Best Man2 have?  Do either of those come in her size?  I think if they do, then the BMs could match and the Maid/Matron of Honor will have the different dress.  Does Bridesmaid or Best Man3 like either of the other Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses?  If you were trying to have them all different-I’m sorry, but it might be simpler to just have all the BMs wear the same dress???  Good Luck!

    Post # 10
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    4001 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    When I first started planning, I would of said to change the color.  But now, I think you should just have her wear a dress she doesn’t exactly like, but is the right color.  It is your wedding after all. 

    Are you leaning toward one option versus the others?

    Post # 13
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    1684 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I dunno how I missed that last post b/c I LOVE the 1st 2 dresses.

    The dresses for Bridesmaid or Best Man #1 and Bridesmaid or Best Man #3 are similar in silhouette. Do you think she’d go for that?

    It might not be putting her a dress she “hates” rather in a dress she doesn’t love but doesn’t mind wearing. Not to say she’d be uncomfortable or self conscious in it, just that it wouldn’t be her 1st choice. I’ve worn plenty of Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses I don’t really like, but I still wore them. 

    If not and you’d rather make her happy, then I say change the color to purple since they all come in the same shade. I wouldn’t go to another designer because the colors could be all off. Although, I know Alvina Valenta & Lazaro are JLM dresses too – do they have the same dye lots?

    Post # 14
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    529 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Here’s a question – are they paying for their own dresses?  If they are NOT, then I would definitely do what YOU want and just have her be in a dress she doesn’t love that’s not the right color.  If they are paying for their own dresses, then it would be NICE to let them pick their own dresses, but it’s YOUR wedding and you don’t have to do that.  Is it likely they’ll be wearing these dresses all that much again anyway?  Probably not.  If you’ve had a vision of the dresses from the get-go, I think you can ask her to pick a different dress in the CORRECT color.  Color’s important to you and she should be understanding.  You shouldn’t have to change the color of your wedding party just for this one dress.  I let my bridesmaid pick her dress, but stimulated that it MUST be navy.  If she found a dress that wasn’t navy, then she just kept looking.  You can do the same with your bridesmaids.  Good luck!

    Post # 15
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    278 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Is she saying that she doesn’t like them based on only the pictures? My bridesmaids are picking their own Dessy dresses and the ones who have gone to shops have said that trying them on has made a huge difference. Can she go try on some of the JLM ones or maybe even find some similar shapes/styles and see which kind work best for her?

    I think at this point, if you want gray, you should stick with gray and have her find a dress she’s satisfied with. She doesn’t have to love it, but just be okay with it.

    ETA: I just checked out your other post and the dress Bridesmaid or Best Man #3 picked out is pretty similar to Bridesmaid or Best Man #1. She didn’t like that dress? I think it would be fine to have 2 in the same dress and the 2 others in different dresses.

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