(Closed) First hand strip club experience! VENT (longish)

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

Youre a brave woman!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

You are a brave woman!  I honestly am not going to leave my opinion regarding lap dances on here because it is too strong, and I am afraid of offending anyone.  But bottom line, I no likey!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It would make me vomit too, I think. Though, I have the same perspective you used to have – I even told Fiance that he should go ahead and go to the strippers. Though, I’m sure my perspective would change if I saw the lapdance thing. There’s just something… wrong? I think that’s the word… about seeing a half naked woman grinding up on your man, no matter the circumstance.

Perhaps you could make an agreement about no lapdances at the bachelor party, and then play ignorant about it. His buddies may go ahead and order it anyway, but if you don’t see it, I would just assume it didn’t happen.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I have been to the strip club a few times, and I was so busy laughing that I didn’t really get any “sexy” feelings out of it. But also, here in Minneapolis we have a super wide variety of strip clubs. We have Deja Vu, which is super trashy, full-nudity and no-alcohol. Or on the opposite side of the spectrum we have The Seville Club, which is really upscale, only topless and serves alcohol.

Boy and his friends went to The Seville club for his BFF’s bachelor party, and it was apparently super low-key. There were lap dances, but the more classy atmosphere kept everything as clean as can be, while still having topless ladies running about.

I am not sure if every city has trashy & classy strip clubs, but I definatly know I’d feel more comfortable with my fellow at a reputable establishment rather than the ‘vu.

 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

hmmm… yeah your brave. I too have strong oppinions on strip clubs. Especially married or about to be married men at them. What you felt that day was nothing but natural. I honestly would have been in tears. What would your Fiance feel like if he walked in on some half naked guy all over you at a strip club? I dont think he would be happy. I might start something saying this but….woman who strip really could find better ways to make thier money then look like girls who have no respect for themselves or the woman whos husbands they are grinding all on. And men…well they just need to ask themselves if they would be happy having some guy all over their girl.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@ Ilikepink. Can you have classy strip clubs???? lol sorry Im not being sarcastic and dont mean to offend anyone but a “classy strip club” just kinda sounds silly.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

@Kare7213–With you 100%.  I know that I would be way cooler if I was one of those girls who was totally fine with strip clubs, but I’m not, and I can’t pretend to be. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I heart you for posting this Laughing

I love strip clubs – I have a great time going to strip clubs. It became a thing to do because after college when I moved back to CA (after going to college in NY) living in the city when our fun nights were over we didn’t want to end our nights. Well we also didn’t want to go to after hour parties filled with chaos and drugs and all other sorts of whacked out business…. As a result my gal pals and I would go to the strip clubs. Then whenever we went to Vegas we would go to Olympic Gardens (OG,) you know the boys on the top and the girls on the bottom – everyone can have some fun!!!!!

After dating FH for a while I learned that he isn’t a strip club dude. It was something I couldn’t fathom – I just couldn’t wrap my head around the fact that a guy couldn’t enjoy the entertainment of strip clubs.  I talked with his buddies about it and they told me while at x’s bachelor party FH actually fell asleep in the car vs. going into the strip club. I asked if it was due to alcohol and they said nope!!!  Fast forward – – FH and I take a mini vaca in Vegas and I want to pay a visit to OG, remembering the past good times…While sitting there with FH I could see that he was disgusted!!!!! 

Guys – strip clubs aren’t for all of them. If your FH felt uncomfortable w/ that lap dance he will never feel comfortable having one, regardless of your presence. I think its great that it happened, that you didn’t like it, and that you talked about it with him. Have no worries – everything is all good Wink

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

@Kare, By classy, I mean, in comparision to other strip clubs! Haha, not like, 3 Star Michelin Dining classy. It doesn’t feel covered in eight layers of sleaze.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

I shoud also mention that I am way more comfortable around naked ladies than my boy is. I love Burlesque, and he won’t even go. I guess I should be hanging out with Jackie more.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

To the OP: yeah, you can’t help how you feel.

I asked my Fiance about this topic last night, and his advice to people was to make sure your Fiance goes to the nicest club in town. Most of the nice ones are making hundreds of thousands of dollars a night, and won’t jeopardize that by allowing sex acts or drug dealing to occur. Guards should be everywhere, and there should be attendants in the bathrooms. If not, don’t go.

And what is his authority? Drumroll….he married a stripper! When he was 19 (now 34) and they knew eachother before hand. But, so, yeah, his ex-wife stripped for a while. I’ll only say that he had green hair and 12 piercings and had a life-time ban from three bars at Kent State for dancing naked on-stage. Now he has a non-profit conservation job, has received awards from the Governor, takes me to the symphony and ballet regularly, and looks like a middle-aged banker. LOL.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011
Habibah14 I think it was a bad idea to go. Just keep the visual out of your head.  I think it’s one of those things that he will do once for his bachelor party and then never do again, as long as you keep your foot down on the subject. Did you everthink how he will feel seeing a half naked man rubbing himself on you at your bachelorette party? It may be something you don’t want to do, but your bridesmaids may talk you into it. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@monitajb: Thanks for a great laugh today! I guess you really cant judge someones past by their now adays cover!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I can totally understand being skeezed out by strip clubs and CERTAINLY not wanting your FI/husband to go… but personally, I’m with Jackie and ILikePink – I like them =) I’ve never gone with my Fiance, though – he’s not a strip-club-dude.

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