(Closed) Yes, I did catch the bouquet and am the next one to get married. Yay for me! BUt

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Has he said why he doesn’t want to set a date?  You two really need to get to the bottom of that before moving forward.

Post # 5
Member
6248 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Light a fire up under him!  It’s time to set a date and start planning your wedding already.  🙂

Post # 6
Member
3799 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It took us several months to set a date, more than anyone else I knew. We waited almost a year…neither one of us was ready to set a date yet. We set our date in October and are getting married in June. For some reason we had a hard time getting motivated! You might want to ask him what’s up.

Post # 7
Member
205 posts
Helper bee

If it’s a matter of needing the push to start planning…

Find a venue you like (most require bookings a year in advance) and book it ASAP. It’s easier to set your date based on logistics, as unromantic as that may seem, and it also gives you solid ground to advance on your wedding plans.

But if the issue is him not wanting to set a wedding date…then that’s another ballgame altogether.

Post # 8
Member
426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Weird. I didn’t know people just got engaged and then…didn’t really go any farther. Why doesn’t he want to set a date??

Post # 9
Member
868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We were out visiting wedding venues when he proposed!  There’s no time like the present.  We decided the sooner, the better!

I agree that you need to talk to him about setting a date.  Unless it is a financial thing (which is easily remedied by a JOP or small wedding), then there really shouldn’t be anything else assuming you’ve already got a ring on your finger.

You need to find out if he proposed because he felt it was the next logical step, or beause he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.

Post # 10
Member
868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I just re-read your post.

You invited him to come to a wedding with you and he DID NOT GO BECAUSE THERE WAS A FOOTBALL GAME ON TV?????

 

Post # 11
Member
1747 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@ViaMinorViator: My now Fiance and I initially broke up over this. He was supposed to come to a family party but said he would be “missing the game”!!! Needless to say WE BROKE UP because he was so callous and that is just something you do not put before your girlfriend or Fiance.

After six months and fixing all our issues, he never did anything like that again as he had his priorities in order and he would never miss a family event for football.

I would suggest you get to to the bottom of this.

Post # 12
Member
868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@LuckyJuls:  Geeeeeeze.  So not cool.  Sometimes men need that kick in the pants though.  At least you had a happy ending (or are on your way there!)

The topic ‘Yes, I did catch the bouquet and am the next one to get married. Yay for me! BUt’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors