Post # 1
This wedding has really helped me realize who my true friends are. In fact, I don’t have many friends at all. I posted before about my friend troubles and how I so desperately would love to have a “best” friend, but now not only do I have the wedding rubbing the fact that I am almost friendless in my face, I also have my birthday.
Fiance was so sweet and wanted to plan a birthday party for my upcoming bday. When he asked who I wanted to invite I realized, sadly, that I really don’t have many people to invite. And the ones I do, I’m afraid they will not show up.
This makes me sad.
Post # 3
@Legallyblondiebride:Huge hugs. I know that feeling. We’re only inviting about 20 people who are just our friends (as opposed to being relatives who are also friends, or friends of our parents) to the wedding and realised that actually they were pretty much all our friends who we would want at the ceremony. That was a little depressing.
Post # 4
@SpecialSundae: Yea, all of our friends are already in the bridal party so we don’t have any other friends to invite. Depressing..
Post # 5
@Legallyblondiebride: I am only inviting a handful of people to my wedding whereas my fiance is inviting TONS of people. I have never been popular, but the people who do love me love me big time. I’m sure you have a few of those in your life
Post # 6
I completly understand! I have ONE friend and I consider her my best friend. Other then that I just have a couple girls I talk to but dont really hang out with anymore.
Post # 7
@Legallyblondiebride: Dont feel sad! Having lots of friends isnt always a good thing. More friends = more drama. I have litterally 3 friends and for me that more than enough.
Post # 8
I only invited ONE friend to my wedding. My husband had about 35. Don’t feel bad. Just because your not close with many people doesn’t mean you’re not a great person!
Post # 9
The older we get, the more we realize that “friends” are few and far between. Sure there are people who have a lot of “acquaintances” dressed up as biffles, but when sh*t hits the fan… are they true blue friends. I would focus on the things that matter. Family, your Fiance, and yourself. These are people that will always be there for you.
Post # 10
I’m sorry 🙁 I know exactly how you feel. It prob doesn’t help, but I try not to think about it too much and just figure its their loss and not yours.
Post # 11
Nothing like a wedding, where you have to actually start writing down your friends’ names on a piece of paper, to make you sit up and realize dang… where did everybody go? But as long as you are happy with your life the way it is, esp with your Fiance, that’s all that matters. In fact, you DO have a best friend, hopefully–your FI! He is going to be the most important person in your life once you are married, and it’s okay if that is the case now.
Post # 12
My mother always told me, you will have many aquaintances through life, if you have a few good friends you are lucky. She was right. I have a ton of aquaintances, people I truely enjoy but would never tell my deepest to. I count myself a lucky person to have two really good friends. Both of which I don’t have to talk to every day, but when we get together it is like we have never been apart.
Don’t be upset, you are blessed to have a few good friends who truely care about you. You will find a best friend. Mine is the last person in the world that I would have thought would be when I met her, and I didn’t meet her until I was in my thirties. You never know, she may even be a member of the Hive (((HUGS)))
Post # 13
I feel this way too about my wedding. I know it can be tough, especially when you hear about other weddings and how the bride and groom were surrounded with their 50+ friends. Don’t let it get you down. It’s not about the quantity, but the quality of the friendships.
Post # 14
Awww I wouldn’t worry about that. You have a man that loves you and he’s your best friend!
Post # 15
Thanks for the support girls!! I love this board and I love you all!! 🙂
Post # 16
Honestly, my FH is my best friend.
We have a few friends: mostly couples, that we make the effort to see; and plenty of friendly family we see regularly… but he’s who I want to spend time with, talk to, laugh with, go out with, and confide in.
I grew up in a household where it was the same: my parents were (and still are, 43 years later) each others’ BFFs, and same with FH. His father passed away suddenly 5 years ago and his mother still misses her husband like it was yesterday (and talks to him, in a non-crazy way).
To me: this is that way it should be.