(Closed) Yes, I know I don’t have many friends…I don’t need a reminder!

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I’m sorry ๐Ÿ™ 

I also don’t have a best friend. all of my local girlfriends are “fair weather friends”, I only see them at parties. my closest, oldest friend lives very far away and we are too busy to talk most of the time, so we tend to only catch up once a year. 

I felt like I only had two girls to ask to be my bridesmaids, and one of them was my sister. so I can totally emphathize!  *hugs*

Post # 18
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624 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My best friend passed away 2 1/2 years ago, that taught me a lot about friendship. First was that she could never be replaced.  I had a couple girls try but once I saw the negativity they brought with them, I let them go. I also learn that my husband is my best friend as he should be. 

Most of all I’ve learned that most people will just come and go in our lives but if we’re lucky, a few will stick around for the long haul. We don’t need to speak to them everyday or every week or even see them every year. But if we can catch up right where we left off, or be more than happy to be there for times good and bad or lend a hand when needed, we are true friends.  Quality, not quantity…

 

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Dont feel bad… sadly I also do not have many friends… I have like 2… which is why my bridal party is only 4 ppl…. I have npo clue why i have so few friends I am very nice thoughtful and have no drama…. I really think it is because I am young and most ppl my age are not getting married and wanting to start a family, they are still into partying an such… but i am glad to see i am not alone!

 

Post # 20
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468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Legallyblondiebride: Trust me there are tons of us out there! My Fiance has a HUGE group and I really didn’t notice until we sent out wedding invites. I was so sad… but than I took a step back and noticed I really didn’t need many… I was marrying my bf! Think of it like that ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 21
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Bumble bee

@Legallyblondiebride: True friendship is a blessing. Quality out ranks quanity any day! I have 3 good friends and at 31 we still go through our ups and downs.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am in the same boat.  I cut the negative girls from HS and have one friend left from HS now.  I work with children solo so no work friends for me.  Now that I am off the park my party girl friends have dropped me.  But in the end I have 2 amazing sisters and a daughter who I call my best friends.  Plus 4 friends that have shown that no matter if we don’t talk everyday they will always be there for me!

One true friend is all you need.  And a great FH!

This reminds me of the scene in Friends where Chandler says “Its just sad!” because he has only a few blue pins on the seating chart to Monica’s hundred or so red pins.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 23
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305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I have a lot of people to go out with, for a drink or dinner…but I don’t have many close friends at all.  I would say my best friends are my mom lol & my fiance.  Don’t think your alone!, I think this is just happens as we get older.

Post # 24
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69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My Fiance has a lot more friends than me, but mine are closer. When it comes to wedding party I have so many worthwhile friends that I have to cut people out, whereas he has hard time picking even one. So I don’t mind that his side will be so much larger than mine, because I know the quality is high!

Post # 25
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403 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am in the same situation. My Fiance and i were talking about how I feel his numbers of invites are crazy and he asked ” You dont have any friends you want to invite?” ..ugh

I have two friends who have been best friends with since I was 7yrs old (25 years ago now) and my sis-in-law. Other then that, all the females I know are just people I hang out with for drinks or at a functon but not invite to my wedding. ๐Ÿ™  It kind of sucks when you only have a wedding party of 3 people, one being your family member and no one else to invite to your wedding….

My Fiance has tons of friends and wants to only invite them not family. I am more comfortable inviting family because I dont have friends… if we invite all his friends and family the wedding will be too huge. I dont know what to do

Post # 26
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641 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I am going through the same thing.  I lost touch with everyone…my best friend is my Maid/Matron of Honor and is also my Future Sister-In-Law. But were not that close u know? I havent had a best friend who thought the same as me since high school.  My other close friend whom I lived with for years might not be able to come…and then the other Bridesmaid or Best Man is FIs childhood friends wife. Shes really nice, and I do like her but we dont know each other that well.

Originally I wanted uneven numbers becase Fiance has lots of guy friends..but he wouldnt allow that.  So now if my Bridesmaid or Best Man cant make it, I have literally no one else I can ask.  annnd we recently moved to a new city where I literally have no friends at all.  Every one house is either 5 hour drive, or a plane ride away so I feel lonely and sad about the planning ๐Ÿ™

ooh well enough about that, I suppose all that really matters is my Fiance right??

Post # 27
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872 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I am in the same boat. 

My maid of honor is someone I barely know, she is my fiance’s best friend’s wife, but through this planning process of my wedding we’ve gotten the chance to get closer. 

My bridesmaid is my fiance’s brother’s wife who I’ve only met once, but we’re FB friends, so we talk that way. 

We won’t be having a bride and groom side for the ceremony because the only family member coming from my side is my mom. I only have 7 people coming to the wedding that are from “my side.” Out of these 7 people, I only have one good friend that I know well. 

Nothing like a wedding to make it painfully obvious how friendless I am. 

I am sorry you are going through the same thing, it really does suck, but this brings you closer to your Fiance and it promotes making closer friends with the people you already know. 

Good luck~

Post # 28
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1990 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Legallyblondiebride:  eeps! this is how I feel as well my dear… I work as a nanny so I don’t have any work friends and although I’m friendly with a lot of people via social networks, in my everyday life I really don’t have much to show for!

I had 115 at my wedding but it made me realize I wish I would have had a destination wedding so I could only have those people that truly love me there and it would have been more lavish for the inimate crowd due to not having to spread the budget out over 115 people!

Don’t worry… just try to learn from your life.

Now I try to focus on QUALITY rather than QUANTITY Wink

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Legallyblondiebride:  I know this feeling all too well. My birthday pased this year and it was spent with my SO and my family, as y friends were to busy to come see me or even wish me a happy birthday…well, i guess I should feel gracious they took the time to post a birthday message on my facebook. That’s all I got. Even my roommate, who i am close with, ditched me for a concert with some guy and I didn’t even see her on my birthday.

 

I wish I had a best friend too. You’re not alone. Hopefully it will get better.

Post # 30
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206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I am not as social as my SO for multiple reasons-personality and circumstances of our lives. I have moved around a LOT, as a kid and as an adult. I chose professions where my personality is radically different than my classmates (law and business)-most of my good friends are from undergrad and they are all ph.d types. My sister is my BFF. 

I’m okay with it at this point in my life. Sometimes he jokes about it to me though and I get really irritable. I am a more introverted person…that’s okay!

But my four really good friends? All showing up to my engagement party. And 2 of them are coming to my wedding in India, which is amazing. 

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