(Closed) Yes, I will wait untll you're married to have a child….WTF?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 17
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Honey Beekeeper

As pps have said, it’s also possible she was making a joke at her own expense following your comment.  

Post # 18
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Newbee

Maybe she didn’t intentionally mean it. But if it’s true, I wouldn’t put my life on hold for her.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Sounds more like she’s upset she’s not married yet… if you get married and have a baby you’ll have “beaten” her there… Basically she needs to get over herself.  I wouldn’t let it bother me.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

Maybe she is a tad jealous because you guys will get married before her, he has a good job and the possibility of children is real…maybe she’s not happy with her own life.

Post # 21
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

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@waddle:  that’s a really odd comment for her to say. 

translation:

“please hold off on your life until my life is fulfilled.”

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@mypinkshoes:  +1

Weird comment. Sounded like she wants to play a game of “who can have it all first”

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

 Her personal issues are NOT your problem. Don’t  allow her to make then your problem. Do what you’re going to do, on YOUR timeline. If you two decide you want kids in 4 years, great. If you two decide that it’s right for you next year, then go for it! Ignore the comment and move on with your normal life. Acknowledging it or allowing her to get to you gives her a level of control over your life that you just don’t need.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

It’s an odd comment. It is possible she didn’t mean what came out, but if she did, I agree with the others: it sounds like this is someone who wants to make sure the spotlight is on her, and only her, until she’s done with all of her big life events. It’s selfish and stupid, but, there are plenty of folks like that.

I have a SIL like that. I believe she’s trying for #2. I’m freshly-pregnant with my first. She’s going to be *mighty* pissed when she finds out, especially if the pregnancies happen to coincide. 

Doesn’t matter. I make my decisions for myself and my family, she gets to make them for hers. The same is true for your situation. I’d keep mum about wedding and children plans; it sounds like his sister will find a way to take a dump all over them.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee

Assume that this is a throwaway statement.  She may have had to swallow a little bit of envy.  Be forgiving and gracious and move on.

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

Lol that’s weird… I mean i would’ve interpreted as a joke since she knows you’re not pregnant, but the fact that she’s not even engaged and said that. *shrug * hopefully she was kidding. 

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