Post # 1
When I told my friend that we are not doing any personal vows on 4 October 2014 and that we will be doing the traditional vows that the Officiant will be reading to us, she said “my friend it’s 2014, no one does traditional vows anymore”. Then I said “ok, we’ll be the only ones then!!”
Personal vows are one of the things I coudn’t be bothered about in planning this wedding. And it is the only thing that my FI is totally against. He actually wanted to just say I do. And I convinced him to at least repeat what the Officiant will be saying so that it is not too short and boring.
Are we the only ones not doing personal vows in this day and age??
Post # 2
You’re not the only ones…we are sticking to the traditional vows as well!
Post # 3
Nope, definitely not the only one – we’re sticking to the traditional vows too! I actually like the traditional vows 🙂
Post # 4
I’ve only heard personal vows once so I didn’t realize they were that popular. We did traditional vows, neither of us wanted to get very personal on front of our guests.
Post # 5
We did traditional vows in a short amd sweet ceremony (the whole thing took 20 minutes including the register signing). The words were beautiful, quite a few of the guests were teary-eyed and it was all very lovely. It’s your wedding, you should do what you and your fiancé want.
Post # 6
I think most couples do traditional vows. We did, but we just said ‘I do’ because I didn’t want to risk crying through them.
I think a lot of couples might start out thinking they’ll do personal ones, but very few actually have the time to do so by the time the wedding rolls around.
Post # 7
Re: “No-one does traditional vows anymore”
“Yeah, I know. We decided to be unique and not do what everybody else is doing”
Not to offend any bees who are doing their own vows, just thinking rude back to OP’s friend. We didn’t do personal vows either though. Mr. Daly could barely get through the traditional ones! In fact, when he was to repeat “to be my lawfully” he said “to be my love” which I thought was actually really sweet.
Post # 9
DH and I did personal vows but of the weddings i’ve been to in the past few years, i’d say it is 50/50. so you are definately not alone in just doing traditional vows.
Post # 10
Keke84: We are having a friend officiate the ceremony, so personal vows is kind of overkill, given how untraditional it will already be. Besides, I’m shy and don’t like putting all my feelings on display.
Post # 11
We used traditional vows.
Post # 12
We said the traditional Church of England vows. It was really important to me to say the same words as all our family had before us.
Post # 13
Congrats on your October 4th wedding (I’m an Oct 4th 2013 bride!) We did not to personal vows. Our officient had us invloved in the process of deciding on different verses from traditional vows. The officient talked a lot about us and our lives from asking us questions but the vows themselves were not written by us. We were waaaaaaay to nervous to write (and remember) our own.
Post # 14
You are not the only one! Where I live in Europe NOONE does personal vows.<br />I wanted to go with the flow and do like eveyone. However my husband was totally against the “till death parts us” part as he feels very strong about the fact that a death is not a reason to stop loving someone. So we did personilized traditional vows =)
Post # 15
I mean “to have and to hold”, “in sickness and in health”, “to love and to cherish”, “for richer for poorer” sound perfect enough for us!! And my FI and I have never been the kind to declare our love in front of muititudes let alone adult family members.
Thanks for the reponses!!