(Closed) Yes it's the 21st Century and we are not doing personal vows, only us???

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We did traditional vows, too. Darling Husband reeeeally wanted to write our own but I am not comfortable opening myself up like that to a 100-person audience, and besides, I don’t know when I would have ever had time to sit down and do it! I think he only wanted it because pretty much every wedding we’ve been to over the last few years has featured personally-written vows, but all those weddings were kinda hipster-y and to me it’s starting to feel a little twee. (To all those Bees who are writing your own vows, I’m not knocking you–it’s more like I’ve started to associate personal vows with a certain type of ‘do that isn’t really us.) So yeah, we just did the generic short-and-sweet. If we ever do a vow renewal I can see writing our own vows for that.

Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’ve never been to a wedding without traditional vows. 

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Temple Beth Am/Love is Blind

Keke84:  To the chagrin of our rabbi we are not doing personal vows either and are keeping it short & sweet.

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

We also did traditional vows, our officiant gave us some selections on the exact wording but that was about as personal as it got. We just preferred it to trying to write something ourselves.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

we did traditional vows, it was perfect for us and we loved it!  If we did personal vows it would have been a hot mess.

Post # 21
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

It’s rare for us to see a wedding with personal vows. And usually they’re super awkward…

We went with the traditional!

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Keke84:  In my area most just use traditional vows. I don’t think I have ever been to a ceremony that had written their own vows. To be honest I’m not good with words. I don’t wanna write anything cheesy and usually when I have to do public speaking, even though I have something written on paper, I don’t like how it sounds and I try to change it when speaking and it never comes out right. I’m already struggling with my speech for the wedding and yes its mostly thank yous but again I’m sure I won’t like the way it sounds. I don’t wanna stress about writing our own vows. Our officiant sent us a few of the services they offer and we got to choose our vows/service so in a small way we got to personalize/add in or change things we wanted into our ceremony. 

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

We didn’t do personal vows – you’re not alone! It didn’t seem like either one of “us”. The only time we ever brought it up during the planning process went something like “you’re not thinking we would write vows to each other, right?” “OMG, never” hahaha. Just us 🙂

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Grandma\'s Oak Tree

We’re date twins! We’re also doing traditional vows 🙂

Post # 25
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Sugar bee

We’re not doing personal vows.  Our officiant offered us her standard wedding script to use as a starting point, and we’re only requesting a couple of minor changes to it.  I like the idea of personal vows, but I know that it’s something which we don’t feel strongly enough about to pull it off.  I’d rather pay an officiant to take the reins and prepare a nice ceremony.

Post # 26
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Newbee

Keke84:  when my bf and I make that step–we have already discussed it, have even discussed some minor details, but are waiting for a couple reasons–we will be using traditional vows. I havent been to too many weddings recently –one thing good about not having a huge family and tons and tons of close friends–but I hear traditional most of the time when I do…..

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Cadillac mountain

We are somewhere in the middle. We aren’t doing traditional vows & we aren’t writing our own. We are saying the same very short & sweet vows. We were going to to personalized, but I’m just not sure I have the time to write them!

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We did traditional vows. Our wedding was already nontraditional enough (we had a Priest and a Rabbi and were married in a neutural location) that traditional vows were perfect!

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We did “traditional” vows. We wrote the ceremony script, but it didn’t contain anything that you wouldn’t find at most normal Christian weddings. Then we recited/repeated the standard vows for our denomination. No fuss, no muss. 

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Keke84:  We are doing a mix. We are doing some personal vows upfront and then we stuck all of the traditional ones at the back end. Honestly, the traditional vows are what makes me happy and makes me feel like it’s a real wedding to me whereas FH is in love with personal vows so we are doing both!

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