Post # 1
I really did not expect this! We’ve had 9 people cancel in the past two weeks, and they weren’t even going to tell us! We figured out via FB or a mutual friend that these guests decided they couldn’t attend. It’s quite frustrating because we have already paid in full for everything, and it greatly messes up our seating arrangements, for which we have already had the escort cards printed up. I know 9 people doesn’t sound like much, but for everything we’ve paid for the wedding, it adds up to approximately $400 we’re losing for these cancellations. And we’re having a small wedding of 60 guests, so it kinda scares me that more people will cancel or be no-shows. Of course I’m thrilled still about my approaching wedding and celebrating it with the friends and family who will be there, but right now I’m annoyed! Has anyone else had to deal with so many cancellations after they RSVP’d “yes”?
Post # 3
We had 8 people not show, and not tell us beforehand!!! I was so pissed, because there were people who knew we would invite them if we had openings and we would have had we known
Post # 4
I had the opposite problem, 7 people told us they were coming after RSVPing no. And all within the last three days before the wedding – who DOES that? Anyway, outcome was the same: hundreds of dollars in extra payments and frantic table rearranging in the two days before the wedding.
Post # 5
@Lida- I originally had that fear, and definitely think that would’ve been worse.
Post # 6
OP: Can you invite others now or let people bring dates so its not a total loss?
Post # 7
@ heather25- yes, we’ve already let a couple of guests know that dates are welcome. When it comes down to it, I know it’s not a huge deal. I just wish some people would have thought it through a little more before saying yes. Oh well, other people not planning a wedding have no clue what all goes into it.
Post # 8
It is very inconsiderate when people do that, we had a quite a few people who rsvp’d yes but thend idnt show up or only one out of the family showed up. It was annoying and i wil lbe sure not to invite them again to any rsvp event I ever have.
Post # 9
I had 4 people cancel in the final week before our wedding – pretty much sure I haven’t forgiven them yet. But I’m still working on it! Stuff happens, but I totally hear ya girl!
Post # 10
I’m having the same issue!! The people who are calling to change their RSVP to no aren’t even giving legit reasons (in my book). One couple said they RSVP’d yes (4 weeks ago) then looked at flights and didn’t want to spend the money- wouldn’t you do that BEFORE responding? Another one said they thought they wouldn’t really know anyone so they didn’t want to come anymore…what? At least make up a good excuse:) All our response changers are married too- so they should KNOW how it can mess up wedding plans!
Post # 11
very contraversial idea: ask some ask mintue friends to invite, the ones who’d be happy to join last mintue.
I know without doubt I could invite up to 10 friends that wouldn’t dream of being all pissy about a last mintue invite and would be thrilled to attend under any circumstances even if that means last mintue. If you have any friends like this… invite them!