- 1 week ago
- Wedding: December 2010
Someone asked if the crazy Vegas elopement couple’s daughter/stepdaughter did get married after the rumors and incident involving her fiancé. Well, I’ll give you the basics. For those who say this is fiction, then just leave the post, no need to comment (just like you said the elopement was fiction but I did post a picture of the “booty bow,” but there will be no pictures here.) If you want more detail, read on. I bolded some of the more interesting elements of this ridiculousness. And for the record, the friend who committed the HIPAA violation is still employed at the hospital.
Yes, they got married. We did decide to be supportive and attend. Hubby and Dad (formerly known as Groom) are still friends, while not as close, and decided we should be there to support him. Very few family members of GD (Groom’s daughter) showed up; most of NG’s (New Guy) family and friends attended. The ceremony was lovely, but the rest… Cocktail hour had 50 seats for 200+ plus people and very few hors d’oeuvres. The DJ didn’t show up, the open bar had no rum, no vodka (???) Many guests could not eat dinner because the only option was pork, so lots of people ate salad and a roll for dinner (the veggies were served in a congealed cream sauce so…) I won’t go into detail beyond that GD looked stunning and NG looked happy. For unknown reasons the ceremony started on-time and was only 30 minutes, but then there was an almost 2.5 hour cocktail hour. Dinner wasn’t served until after 9:00pm and the entire reception was supposed to end at 10:00pm. BFPB (Best friend/possible boyfriend) did attend the wedding but was not the best man, nor was he in the wedding party.
The real drama began AFTER the wedding. Everyone seemed happy & GD & NG went on a mini-moon to his hometown for 3-4 days immediately following the wedding. Their honeymoon was planned for the following month for a week in a tropical destination. EXACTLY two weeks after the wedding, GD called my house around 11:00pm crying and asking if she could spend the night (I could hear she was already in the car). She arrived a while later crying hysterically. After about 45 minutes she calmed down enough to tell me she & NG had been arguing and it got out of hand that day. GD was thinking the marriage was a mistake and wanted an annulment. NG had screamed and yelled at her in front of her child and caused the kid to cry. GD wanted to leave, NG was blocking her from leaving, told her she couldn’t take Kid, then threatened to take a bunch of pills and kill himself. GD called police and NG left in his car before police arrived. GD waited for police, explained situation, then got in her car and left police at the house with their roommate (BFPB). She said while on the highway NG’s car pulled up behind her trying to get her to pull over & NG kept calling her but she wouldn’t answer. After about 20 minutes he turned off.
I’m trying to find out what precipitated the argument, then it dawns on me: where’s Kid? GD tells me he’s out in her car (???) I’m like, “You left your toddler alone in the car in the middle of the night in my driveway??” GD explains her friend Sam is in the car with Kid. GD didn’t want to invite Sam into my house unless it was okay with me. So I’m just like, “Yes, Sam can come in; get Kid out of the car and into bed.” GD goes to get them from the car.
Sam is a very small but masculine looking woman (I didn’t know she was female until she spoke). She came in, greeted me, then set about putting Kid to bed. Now GD is giving me details. So, the rumors about NG’s sexuality are partially true. He does have a boyfriend, the guy who lives with him & GD (BFPB). They’ve been together for about 5 years but are both extremely closeted. NG is technically bisexual, but prefers men; BFPB is gay but dates women to keep up appearances. He dates women, but doesn’t have sex with them. Both men are afraid their careers will be negatively impacted if they come out about their relationship, so they try to present as straight. NG has been aware of the rumors for a couple of years now and wanted/needed to do something to stop them, so he wanted a straight-appearing family, hence the whirlwind relationship with GD. They met, were living together within about six weeks, were engaged, secured the wedding venue within six months, announced their engagement at around nine months together, and were married before the 18-month mark. He figured marrying a single mother would give him the “beard” (GD used that specific word) he needed to continue in his current career and eventually get into politics.
So she knew he liked men going into the marriage and was perfectly fine with the boyfriend living with them. HOWEVER, unbeknownst to me and her family, GD is also bisexual. She has had several relationships with women, but always while in a relationship with a man. So friends and family always saw her with a man, despite the fact she was having romantic relationships with women. GD said NG knew about this and was not only fine with it, but encouraged it. They agreed GD could see other women only — no men. And there was to be no PDA, nothing that would lead anyone to believe GD was anything more than friends with these women. They also agreed GD would not bring the women around Kid or any mutual friends and family. Once the wedding took place, GD was to stop seeing all women and only be with NG.
So it seems GD couldn’t keep the agreement. Not only was she seeing Sam, but NG found out Sam was listed as an emergency contact at Kid’s school. So that was what caused the screaming and arguing. GD decided she had enough and left, stopped to pick up Sam, then headed to my house. GD said she was done, never should’ve married NG, but it seemed like the Insta-worthy life she always wanted with lots of money, travel, dining out, black-tie events, etc. GD stayed at my house for a couple of days, then said she was going home to NG to try to work things out.
The following weekend GD showed up at my house again, this time without Kid, but with Sam. GD said they were going to spend the night here. Hubby and I were like, “Huh?” Hubby asked her, “Are you still with NG?” GD replied, “Yes.” Hubby asked, “And he knows you’re with Sam and he’s okay with it?” GD replied, “He knows; he doesn’t like it; but there’s nothing he can do. He’ll be embarrassed if I leave him so there’s nothing he can say or do about it.” Hubby responded, “Your marriage is your business, but this is my home and my rules. If my wife was seeing someone else against my wishes, I wouldn’t want my friends and family condoning it and welcoming the third person, so you can stay here, but Sam cannot.” GD got upset and said it was because Sam is a woman. Hubby replied, “You know us better than that and it’s insulting you’d even form your mouth to say those words. If Sam were a man it STILL wouldn’t be okay to put us in the middle of whatever issues you have with NG, so no, it’s not because she’s a woman. It’s because our home is not some flop house or motel where you can bring people to sleep with you.” GD and Sam left; GD returned a while later, alone. I asked her why they didn’t just stay at Sam’s house if they wanted to be together and GD said, “Oh, her wife would have a fit and she’s pregnant.” (????)
GD said she & Sam began as just friends with benefits; they’ve known each other for several years through mutual friends. GD said they both started having feelings for each other but since they were both in “formal” relationships with other people, they agreed they’d end their tryst upon GD’s marriage. But that didn’t happen and now they want to be together but they both live with their spouses, who are also the breadwinners, so they can’t. I told GD she needed to give it some real thought and decide what she truly wants and more importantly, what is best for Kid. There’s already been a bunch of tension and drama between NG and Kid’s father and now Kid is getting attached to Sam. GD said she’d think about things and went back home to NG, again.
Then COVID-19 happened… My mother-in-law, who was visiting when social distancing began and is still here (please pray for me), is high-risk so we began isolating in early March. GD asked if she & Kid could stay with us but I told her no because it was too dangerous for Mother-In-Law. I reached out every week or so to see how they were doing and GD kept saying “it’s difficult” but wouldn’t say any more than that. Then, all of a sudden after three months of no social media with GD and NG together, they both posted their wedding photos with identical messages about how magical their wedding day was and how blessed they are to have each other. A week later, there were pictures of the new Mercedes NG bought her. Everything looks perfect and wonderful. GD texted yesterday to ask if Hubby and I would like to help plan a surprise anniversary trip to Vegas for her Dad (formerly known as Groom) & Stepmom (formerly known as Bride) in June; we politely declined.
Oh, the family member who initially heard the rumor and told me didn’t attend the wedding and hasn’t spoken to GD or NG since before the wedding. With social distancing I haven’t seen any of these people since February and while I have spoken with Dad (formerly known as Groom), I’ve not discussed any of this stuff because it’s simply not my business to discuss with them. Family Member (who shared the initial rumor) is swamped with work and four kids home from school, so we’ve only spoken briefly to stay in touch. From what I gather from my conversations with GD though, none of them are speaking to her. Hubby told me he recently spoke with Dad (formerly known as Groom) and while there weren’t any details discussed, Dad (formerly known as Groom) said something along the lines of “I wasted thousands of dollars on this B.S.” and that he wasn’t dealing with GD or NG for the foreseeable future as they “made a mess and a mockery out of this wedding and marriage.”
Ooh! Almost forgot… the brother of Dad (formerly known as Groom) DID attend this wedding. Hubby went out for a drink with Brother & Dad (formerly known as Groom) the night before the wedding and Brother was saying he is very unhappy in his marriage and is leaning toward getting a divorce when his daughter finishes high school [so maybe Stepmom (formerly known as Bride) isn’t lying about Brother wanting to get back with her???]. Hubby also said Brother was bragging the morning after the wedding about having slept with one of the bridesmaids after the wedding.
And yes, it’s a whole lot of drama and ridiculousness. But we are middle-aged, married people who live a pretty drama-free life so knowing people like this keeps things interesting. And I wouldn’t talk about this with other people who know them, so sharing here allows me to vent, so thank you.