- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
Let me say that I am really stuck and just need to release all the emotions that have been building lately. Mr.A isn’t exactly a good ear for sappy girl-stuff and it isn’t fair to dump all of this on Mom so I am turning to the Hive’s ears (or screens lol) to let it out.
The biggest point I want to make is that I love my sister so very much! She has always been a person that I was able to look up to. As kids we only had one, yes, ONE fight and I remember so clearly every moment leading up to it… as well as following it because it was so traumatic. Any big life event I have asked her to be there for she has been, like the births of my children or graduation. Heck, she is my maid of honor…
Now, Sis is getting married in 2 weeks and outside of a few ideas being thrown out there for an opinion (napkins, chair covers, hair color) I have been shut out of helping her in any way. I have offered repeatedly, even to do set up & take down & am always told to not worry about it because “Leah/Liz/Amy/BLAH” are taking care of it. Ok lets top that with up until last weekend I was told she had no bridal party… 6 of them just randomly decided to buy the same dress and stand up there to support you? Oh, and your flowergirl/ringbearer magically appeared as well? Ugh.
While Mom and I were at her bridal shower I was introduced over & over again as her “half-sister”…. That killed me! We grew up together, in the same town, we shared Moms (our mothers are good friends). What is this half-sister business?!? Top that with no invite to bachelorette party or any other event and I am taking things personal. I am not one of the lucky ones that has got see her dress, or flowers, or even her actual invitations because we got an e-vite. These are all things that I assumed sisters would share, especially when you are both planning weddings. 🙁 As I said, she is my Maid/Matron of Honor, there has been no expectation for her participation in planning but I have kept her in the loop of everything & am excited to put some of her ideas into play.
As soon as I picked my dress I sent a text to her, Mom, & Future Mother-In-Law… the important people. I love my sister but this is breaking me down! Let me also add that Mr.A and I are “small town” people… we live modestly and work hard for what we have. Sis & Future Brother-In-Law are on the opposite end of the spectrum and most def live the lavish big city life. As I said, I am taking some of this personal, probably too personal, but it makes me nauseous to think that I may not be as important as I believed I was. Afterall, when I grew up I wanted to be her! lol Maybe I am just the half-sister that came to be solely because her parents divorced and Dad remarried…
Sorry for the pity party but thanks for listening!