(Closed) YES to renewing vows ceremony and reception or NO,that will be ridiculous…

posted 5 years ago in Vow Renewals
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@MorenitaCharlotte:  

Why is it that most members of your family haven’t come to your previous events? Do you think that they will come to your large reception?

Most people wait until at least five years to do a vow renewal. You did have a reception, so planning a vow renewal on top of that may appear over the top.

 

 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MorenitaCharlotte:  I understand your situation. I am doing a vow renewal only five months after the real thing. In both instances we are using a wedding chapel because they are great cost-savers. My small family can’t make it to our legal wedding because we are out of state.

They will see the vow renewal and my dad will be giving me away, etc., like I was just getting married right then and there. Right after the vow renewal we will be going on our honeymoon.

The only reason we are doing the vow renewal is because my parents said they would pay for it. In that case it isn’t a financial burden.

If I were you I wouldn’t spend a lot of money doing it. Maybe even just visiting your family and spending time with them is a good idea. You don’t necessarily have to make a wedding out of it. A reunion dinner at someone’s house gives you time together and makes it feel special without breaking the bank. You can “present” yourselves officially as a married couple to family for the first time.

I am going to stop now because I am a rambler!

 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Personally I’m not big on attending vow renewals, but I think wedding celebration parties are a lot of fun. 

What if you did the vow renewal for immediate family only so your family could be there this time,  and then had the big reception afterwards for everyone? You really have a lot of lattitude to do any kind of party you want that way! 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

why don’t you just have reunion-type event with family or a party of some sort? why does it have to be “wedding” related? no offense but I think big “vow renewals” are ridiculous so soon after you got married, you’re ALREADY married, why not just have a party? do you just want the attention or gifts? if it isn’t about that why not just throw a reunion or party? 

Post # 7
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am in a similar position as you and really agonized over the decision for months! My husband and I got married in two weeks last summer and had a very small but beautiful event, mainly due to the time crunch (its just not possible to plan for and get 150 people to an event that last minute).  After this event, I really wanted to have a bigger celebration with all the family and friends who were not able who attend our wedding but worried that people would think that was just for more attention or for getting gifts (As one of your replies mentioned).

In the end, we decided to have a “reception” as we are calling it and that will take place in a few weeks.  We will do a small something, like a vow renewal, but we decided not to call it that.  The response we have had has been overwhelmingly positive and supportive and I am proud of my husband and I for making the decision that WE wanted to make.  

If you feel like you want to have a reception or a vow renewal or whatever it may be, then my advice is to go for it! If anyone is put off by the idea then they simply don’t need to attend. I’m sure you have plenty of people in your life who will love and support you and that will make whatever decision you make worth it- those are the people who truly matter. 

Also, congratulations on marrying your best friend ๐Ÿ™‚ in my opinion, that is something worth celebrating twice! 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@MorenitaCharlotte:  

If your family would be supportive, then go right ahead.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think you should go for it! There’s something special about having all of your friends and family together to celebrate your love.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I am all or vow renewals, however I wouldn’t invite anyone else unless it was a milestone- the earliest being 10 years. 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

6 days, 6 months, 6 years, 16 years, 620 years later have WHATEVER you want. Jnvite AS MANY people as you want– Including the Obamas, Santa Claus, Prince Phillip and Queen Elizabeth(leave off William & Kate, it’s probably not a good idea for her to travel with the baby & all) and The Cardinal Pope if you so desire, your love is yours and it doesn’t have to fit or satisfy anyone but you. Screw politically correct or manners or tradition and indulge yourself in all of your own desires of happiness with beautiful, over the top, dizzy fizzy love because that’s all you’ll have when it’s all over with and a few gorgeous pictures to pour over in the future never hurts.

People who love and support you will show up and enjoy sharing your wonderfully special momentous milestones with you, always.

 

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