(Closed) Yes we got engaged “young”. NO! I’m not pregnant!

posted 9 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 32
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Buzzing bee

I am 19, Fiance is a month away from turning 21, and we will be married when we’re 20 and 22. I’ve been engaged one day and I’ve had four (FOUR!!!) people ask me if I’m pregnant. 

Nope, not pregnant, just in love and extremely happy 🙂

Post # 33
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

we moved our date up by a year bc we decided to not book a room somewhere and have a nice garden wedding. so we dont need all the time before to reserve a room. when everyone heard we moved our date the first thing out of everyones mouth was is she knocked up. it doesnt even make sense if i was pregnant they would be able to see it by now. ugh  just because we are young doesnt mean we are expecting! but people always like to talk that will never change!

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I haven’t had anything personally said to me but I have heard that some people think I am a little young. I am currently 23 I will be 24 in Spring and I will be 25 when we get married. I personally don’t think that is young but “Haters will hate”

My friend had a much worse situation than I did. She was 18 when she got engaged to a man she has been with for 2 years. Finally 4 yearslater (after 6 years of being together) she is planning her wedding. So many people talked about her and spread lies that she was pregnant. It really hurt her.

I just wish people would keep their mouths shut.

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think it’s totally rude for people to ask that! 

(However, I do think you have to let your Pastor off the hook, considering that you WERE there to talk about counseling and officiating and he does need to have all the facts. It is a question he would ask regardless, I think). 

Post # 36
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am 24 and Fiance is 25. I’m not sure if it’s because we are in the South, but no one has ever asked me if I was preggers and no one has said that we were too young. We are actually the exception in my family. I’ll be the only grandchild that got married BEFORE we had a kid. Not that it’s a bad thing to get married after you have a kid, but my brother wasn’t exactly in love with his 17 year old girlfriend when he knocked her up 2 months into their relationship and 3 months after they met.

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My fiance’s aunt asked him if I was pregnant, and even made a lot of weird comments to me (like saying I was glowing…) at thanksgiving this year. I don’t even think I’m that young! 25 seems like a pretty reasonable age to get married.

I was offended because it seems like she thought that would be the only conceivable reason why we would be getting married.

Post # 38
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Its kinda funny really. I’m 25 and when my feonce and I announced our engagemnt to my parents my mom actually said. “Well good, I’ve been praying you would find someone soon.” They have been waiting for me to get married since I brought home my first bf in highschool.

His parent said “Well since the wedding isn’t for another year I’m assuming your not pregnant.”

Gotta love family

Post # 39
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178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I did ur tell ur Fiance what ur pastor think about him being Jewish ?

You can get married by a concervative Rabbi they are usually ok with mixed marriages

Post # 40
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

LOVE that turkey.

We got engaged when we were 20, getting married 15 months later at 21. The pregnancy comment flew a couple times but we just let them fly. We’re from a small town, I suppose they know the answer now. 🙂

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@kfricke89: UGH! That was the first thing my dad even asked me! WTF????

Post # 42
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

lol when I told my grandmother about the wedding she asked me if I was pregnant as well. lol ….oh well most ladies our age trying to find the boyfriend of the month, while we are with tying the knot with mr. happily ever after…..really is there a good time to get married either your too young or too old… Life is short and we are enjoying it…

Post # 43
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Bumble bee

My friend got married when she was 17. Needless to say she got the pregnancy comments too.

I think it is just something that you have to shake off. I think I’d be offended, though, because if anything I would want to NOT get married if I were pregnant, purely because I think pregnancy is the worst reason ever to get married. I’d much rather have the baby and then get married afterwards. You should marry for love at the right time, not because a baby is on the way. So I see how it can be insulting to all those who aren’t pregnant that get asked if they are.

Post # 44
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m 22 and my fiance is 28 (although you’d swear he was 19 the way he acts sometimes). We’ve been dating for 4 1/2 years and we’ve lived together for 4 years. No one ever accused me of being pregnant. I think it’s mostly because I’ve made it clear that working in a daycare is birth control enough for me.

The reverend who is marrying us used to be a catholic priest until he and his wife (who I believe was a nun) got married. My family is catholic but I’m really starting to lean more towards just basic christianity because I have less conservative views. Finding this guy was a gift from God (haha) because my grandma was probably a little upset to find out that I wasn’t getting married in a church. This guy is awesome because he does a number of different types of ceremonies including ceremonies for gay/lesbian couples and mixed faith couples. He never once judged us or made us feel uncomfortable for living together. The only question he asked us is “is there anything or anyone pressuring you to get married”, to which our answer was no, but this is a standard question he asks everyone. It’s a shame officients have to make people feel uncomfortable about being honest about their relationship and faith.

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