(Closed) Yesssssssssssssss he moved :)

posted 5 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
  • poll: Do you live with your S/O ?
    Yes : (36 votes)
    72 %
    No : (14 votes)
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  • Post # 3
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    298 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    Fiance and I are a long distance relationship and during the summers, when I can go home for a few months, we joke that it takes a month for us to “get in relationship mode.”  For the first month we annoy each other because we are still living individual lives so we make plans for both of us when we’re really only considering our own schedules.  After that month we figure it out and start consulting eachother about plans, dates, timing, etc.

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    You… live? I don’t really think there is anything you can do to ease adjustment other than be yourself. If you alter yourself to make yourself more appealing, when you two do become more comfortable with one another, you may have an annoying habit, or he might as well.

    Act as you normally would and enjoy it.

    Post # 6
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    9074 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    For me, no different than living with family, except that I kiss my husband every morning and I’m welcomed to walk around naked.

    I haven’t noticed any noticable differences, truthfully.

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I have lived with two bfs.. my first one within a year of living together i knew he was not the one.. i would expect him to take out the trash help with the chores etc but he would not help as much as i had expected so it turned into nagging, into me telling him to do this and that.. living together didnt help our relationship but of course there were other baggage in the relationship that didnt work..

    with the second bf, my current Fiance, we have lived together a little over a year and total of 2 years together and now we are engaged.. he helps with the chores, doesnt expect me to cook for him everyday, doesnt expect me to wash his clothes, or do this do that.. he actually helps a lot around the house!, he wakes up every morning to take our dog out, takes out the trash, washes the dishes, cook me breakfast on sundays… he is very understanding and very supportive..no wonder why he is the man of my life jejejje.. i would say it took us about 3 months getting used to living with each other.. the rest is just our new life :))))

    good luck! living with S/O is best to really get to know each other and making sure the next step (marriage) is best for you two..imo

    Post # 10
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    1629 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    My advice is that if he does anything that you wish was not done or done differently to just say so. Or maybe ask why he does it that way. Just be gentle and explain yourself.

    Post # 11
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    248 posts
    Helper bee

    I found it took 1 year. It’s learning to adjust to his way vs. my way. You’ll find that you’ll have disagreements more often and think ‘We never fought like this before!’, but the truth is that’s ok. You never fought like that before because you had your own space and now you share it. We both needed to learn how to let some things go and how to adjust to one another. For example: my SO doesn’t need to put his feet on the coffee table, but in the big picture it really doesn’t matter if he does or doesn’t. 

    The first year wasn’t always amazing. To be honest, it was hard but everyday I knew that he was who I wanted to come home to. I always thought I’d never live with a partner before marriage but now I am soo glad that I did and reccomend it to everyone I know.

    Enjoy the ups and downs, at some point you’ll both look back and laugh at all of the stupidity. 

     

    Post # 13
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    569 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @Milan21xx:  one more thing, i would say dont expect him to know what you expect/want him to do and talk to him… You will bicker about small stuff, just dont let it blow out of proportion.. ask yourself if it is worth fighting over the toilet seat being up, or leaving the cabinets open etc.. just talk and hopefully he will understand or just let it be and accept it… it is not the end of the world putting the seat down, at least he puts it up lols…

     it is normal to be nervous.. it is a big step! best of luck!

    Post # 14
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    248 posts
    Helper bee

    Can’t wait to hear your funny stories too! There was a thread here for the longest time about the annoying things your partner can do. 

    Just answer me this

    I could relate to most of these and they all made me laugh! This is what you have to look forward too! lmao. 

    Post # 15
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    569 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @lovesweetlove:  good example! thats very true 🙂

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