Post # 1
tears starting streaming down my face!! I finished the application and took off. After we got out, the tears wouldn’t stop and my Darling Husband was wondering what was going on! I was, too!! I have a great career and never second guessed that I would go back to work (although thinking back I always thought I would raise the children). I’m 20 weeks and am still not sure if it was just hormones, or I also mentioned it to another expecting mom and she said it was separation anxiety (already? lol) or what. My DH and I discussed and decided that I would still attempt to go back to work, and if I didn’t like it after 3 months, I can quit, which calmed me down at the time. I’m really going to have to think about this! Can any bees relate??
Post # 3
I can definitely relate. I was raised by two working parents and spent much of my childhood in daycare and while I can’t say I loved it, I never even considered the possibility of being a Stay-At-Home Mom. I always imagined going back to work after having a baby.
It’s HARD. I like my job and I would never want to quit, but I do think about my baby all day long and wonder what I’m missing out on. I keep pictures plastered all over my desk and that helps me. And my daughter gives me a big grin when she sees me come in the door which is the best part of my day.
I was able to kind of ease into it- my husband is laid off during the winter so I went back to work in late Nov, (which was nice because we days off for Christmas and New Years) and didn’t have to put her into daycare until March. Still, I cried my first day back to work, and I cried the first day I dropped her off at daycare. It gets easier, but there are days when it sucks a lot.
Post # 4
I can absolutely relate. My Darling Husband and I were just talking about this last night. While I do want to go back to work, I don’t think I can stay at my current job. I have a commute of an hour and 15 minutes each way, and I won’t get home until about 6:30 every night. If my baby goes to bed at 7:30, that’s barely an hour with him. I need to find something that will give me more time with him. My Darling Husband just said that he has a feeling that I’m going to meet him and never want to leave him b/c he’s going to crawl right into my heart!
Post # 5
When I was about five months pregnant I suddenly decided to be a Stay-At-Home Mom. I did like my job as a legal assistant, a lot, and in fact had been taking classes and studying for further certification. But one day it hit me that I could get another job some day but I would never be able to get those baby days back. I discussed it with my husband (now ex) at the time and he agreed.
I did work from home after my son was born to bring in money, and it was really one of the best decisions I ever made in my entire life. I stayed home with my son for the first four years of his life, until he started preschool.
Post # 6
I can totally relate, our daughter is due in less than 6 weeks, and I struggle everyday that I only get 6 weeks off work. I am already terrified of leaving her at daycare when she is only a month and a half old. I don’t have a choice not to go back to work either. We need 2 incomes and I have the health insurance. I am doing my best to keep it together but some days are worse than others.
I have mommy guilt already before she is even here.
Post # 7
I can totally relate. My mom was working on her nursing degree and working overnight when I was little. She was also a single mom. I remember being left with my aunt a number of times and eventually left by myself, once I was old enough. I think my mom tried to make up for the time she missed with a lot of things and items – but honestly I just wanted her around more often. I remember crying myself to sleep a lot of nights because she wasn’t home. I certainly don’t fault her for it and I’m so glad now that she has a career she loved.
As for me – I completely intended on going back to work after my 12 weeks were up, not because I love my job but because we need the money. However, neither of us was ever really comfortable with the idea of leaving our LO at daycare at only 12 weeks old (although we freely acknowledge that many people must and we were ready to do it ourselves). We looked into daycare prices around the area and they would basically be equivalent to what I currently make. For us, right now, it just doesn’t make sense to do that. We’re considering having me stay home for a year, see how it goes, and then reevaluate. I’m also considering discussing with my work the possibility of doing some of my work from home. They’ve been hoping to eliminate a position in my office for a while, so I think they might jump at the chance to at least get some of their money back. It wouldn’t be FT and I don’t know if they’d go for it – but it’s something I’m mulling around.
Post # 8
Wow, thanks for the feedback. We are still thinking about it. It’s hard as I’ve worked so hard to get where I am, but I’m getting the feeling that all I’m going to want to do is stay at home. I’m 3 months off and then back to work as a tax manager during busy season, which is not ideal. We are hoping my in-laws will come and stay for a month or two to postphone putting our little baby in daycare so soon.
If I don’t go back to work, we would probably end up moving back to the states, which would be a big move, but doable. I’m just going to have to take it day by day I guess!!
Post # 9
I wish I could stay home but I make more money than Darling Husband and I have the health benefits from my job. I am taking 12 weeks off and I am already dreading going back. The only good thing is my husband’s work hours are flexible so he can work nights and weekends, therefore we will only need child care two days a week, but I wish I could just do it myself.