Post # 1
My dad is a jerk. Always has been. BUT he texts me every year on my birthday to say happy birthday. I never realized how much it meant to me until my birthday passed yesterday and I didn’t hear a thing. I pretty much cried myself to sleep. Has anyone else ever had a problem like this?
Post # 3
Aww, I’m sorry. Hey, if it makes you feel better, my mother is a horrible biatch (check out some of my posts on the emo board, LOL). Maybe you could try calling him to see what’s up? And also, happy birthday. 🙂
Post # 4
I’m so sorry for you, I am a very emotional person so that kind of thing would bring me to tears also. Maybe you could give him the benefit of the doubt and assume he is just busy or got the date mixed up.
Post # 5
I’m so sorry. Its sad that some parents cannot understand how much they mean to their children, and just be decent parents/people.
Do something nice for yourself today, you deserve it!
Post # 7
I’m sorry. I totally agree with
she said it much better than I could have. Have a wonderful belated birthday day!!!
Post # 8
Happy Birthday (if not a little belated :))
Like Gabrielle said I don’t think parents realize the effect they have on their children. As hard as it is (because I’m in somewhat difficult parental situations), sometimes we as their children have to let go of our parents. I’m not saying it’s easy, but it’s something that I’ve had to do for my emotional sanity.
Post # 9
@southerntulip I have to say that is great advice
Post # 10
@SouthernTulip: Unfortunately, I have to agree completely about letting go of our parents. My mother is an alcoholic, and since getting together with a raging alcoholic about 6 years ago, things have only gotten worse. She’s frequently forgotten my birthday or other important events. She is totally in denial about her behaviors and the effect they have on us. Like telling my sister that my mom’s dog was cuter than my 3 month old niece, who by the way was a supercute baby and toddler! Or telling me that she “didn’t like who I was as a person” because I called her out on some of her hurtful behaviors about 2 years ago. One time she brought pizza home, two slices for me that were plain. I just started eating the first and she tosses the second to the dog.
I’ve had to stop viewing her as a parent who is supposed to be a certain way, and try to view her as just another person who is flawed. It makes it a little bit easier to handle the disappointment and helps me to lower my expectations.
Thankfully my dad is pretty great and I gained a rockin stepmom 3 years ago when my dad remarried.
I’m sorry you have to deal with that and hope you can try to focus on the people that do love and appreciate you – and who show it!
Post # 11
My dad hasn’t acknowledged birthdays or holidays with me & my sister in over 12 years.
It’s hard, but time heals all wounds. It’s a great reminder to ALWAYS tell your loved ones how much they mean to you.
Post # 12
Thanks so much everyone! It just hurts because my sister told him it was my birthday so he knew but whatever. I am just really confused on whether I should invite him to the wedding. He told me he is not going to my engagement party this weekend.