(Closed) Yestereay we had a baby, today we have an angel. Now what? Deciding on MC method

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am so sorry you are going throught this. I have not but I remember my mother experiencing this when I was 16. She was about 4 months along. I remember her saying the DandC felt complete. I know it was emotionally difficult for her and I wish you strength in the weeks ahead.

Post # 5
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’m so sorry for yours & your DH’s loss.

As for the options, while some people do experience pain with the medical abortion, many people find it no worse than a heavy period. Ultimately, however, it’s up to you. Your doctor should be able to do a “suction aspiration D&C”, rather than a “traditional” D&C with a curette. The suction tool does not cause scarring or fertility problems. I would ask him/her if that is an option (it really should be! most MDs don’t use a metal curette anymore, and even if they don’t do the suction, the plastic curette has a very very low likelihood of causing damage).

I know there are many Bees on here who have shared their stories before about making this choice. I’m sure that they will weigh in here to give you the advice you need.

Post # 6
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m so sorry that you are going through this.  I had a miscarriage a few months ago.  My body took care of everything for me, so I didn’t have a decision to make.  I’m assuming the pill would ‘act’ like nature??  I can only tell you that my experience wasn’t bad.  Just like a heavy period with cramps.  I pretty much laid up in bed that afternoon when it started (It was a Sunday).  Then following day, my doctor got me in to confirm everything and gave me the ok to wear a tampon.  The cramps pretty much stopped and I bleed for (I think) three more days. 

My doctor was really against a DNC and said to just wait to see what nature would do.  She didn’t want a chance of scarring if we could prevent it.

I guess the plus side to the DNC is that it’s over quickly.  Where as I remember saying to my husband “I wish the bleeding would stop so It’s not a constant reminder”.

Prayers to you and your husband through this difficult time and know that the bees are here for you!

Post # 7
1652 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Just wanted to say I’m so so sorry. Best wishes to you and hubs x

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