(Closed) Yet another co-worker invitation dilemma :-)

posted 9 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

First – welcome to the hive and congrats on your engagement!!

If it were me I wouldn’t want to invite him either, but perhaps that’s just because I can get very fiesty about things like that. Clearly you were asked to attend his wedding because someone else dropped out. He didn’t seem concerned to invite other guys in this "group" and not your Fiance and had no problem with it being at all awkward that he did this.

However – since this is your FI’s friend, sometimes you have to bite the bullet and let him take the reins. If he wants to invite him still then my advise would be to go along with it. That way you and your guy won’t be arguing and it won’t be ucomfortable for either of you when you have to interact with him in the future. Men just don’t care abotu this stuff as much as women. Hope this helps and good luck!

Post # 4
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Is it a situation where your Fiance is inviting others from this group? How is your guest list running right now? If you’re running long already, just B-list. They clearly B-listed you so you’re well within your right to do the same. If your Fiance is really adamant about inviting him, though, then just suck it up. No need to get in any sort of squabble over something so small. But if he feels he is obligated to but doesn’t want to, maybe gently remind him that he was a B-list guest…

Post # 5
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Honestly I would not take into account the verbal invitation.   Whether someone invited you to their wedding, in whatever means, shouldn’t dictate whether you invite them to yours. When it comes to work friends, I tend to err on the side, that you should only invite who you really want there.  Otherwise, it can get out of hand really, really fast, and pretty soon you have an extra 30 people on the guest list!

Post # 6
142 posts
Blushing bee

 I would not invite him .

Post # 7
1428 posts
Bumble bee

While I think it was definitely a B-list invite…we love those…LOL!, if it is just this one co-worker of your Fiance, and your Fiance wants him there, then I would invite him.
My guy works for a large company but in small groups all over the state. I know we will be inviting some of his co-workers that he has become friends with, if he wanted to add one more guy that he had forgotten about I’d be okay with that, especially if it was one from his current crew knowing that all of the others have been invited.

Post # 8
150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hi, and congratulations! I firmly believe that you should not invite anyone that’s not meaningful to you. It would be one thing if this coworker mattered to your fiance, but it doesn’t sound it’s that important for him, except for appearances. I guess it just depends on the size of your guest list. Good luck!

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