Post # 1
So this is my first post stemming from what is becoming my first wedding planning freak-out. Here’s the deal, Mr Kale and I are doing our wedding on a tight budget. Our date is Aug 6 in Seattle, and the reception will be around 7-7:30. We estimate around 60-70 people. We decided to more of a food station/ appetizer and pie reception to help save on cost, figuring it would be less than a proper dinner. So my question is 1) if you were a guest what would your expectations be if the invite said something like “appetizer and dessert reception to follow” 2) if this tacky given the time of night? 3) Am I out of my mind to try to do this for 20-30 per guest (not counting dessert? – that is already taken care of)
Please help. Any ideas/ thoughts are appreciated.
Post # 3
20-30 per guest can actually get you quite a bit with a caterer. I would have a more substantial meal, even if it is HEAVY apps. Thet time of night, guests expect to get fed. I would hate to have people leave hungry.
Post # 4
I agree with Ms_Hedgehog on what you can get for the price..
I would get your budget down, get an idea of a dinner menu & get some quotes from some caterers
We’re not doing a dinner, but having a brunch reception & I was kinda freaking about food at first only to find out….
The caterer was HAPPY to work with me & since she’s the professional she was able to help me finalize a menu that sounds fabulous (and i’m sure it will taste just as good with her 30yrs business experience)
AND it’s even LESS than what she first quoted me with my “thought” menu.
I’d look around, make some calls (or send emails like I do) to some caterers before freaking 😉
Post # 5
@Ms Kale: I had a restaurant provide food for my near-Seattle wedding for $15 pp. This did not include dessert, servers, or rentals, but it included delivery, chafing pans, and TONS of delicious food. We ate leftovers for a long time!
We had a really casual backyard wedding, so this may not work for your vision. If you are envisioning something more formal, an appetizer/dessert reception is a great idea. I don’t think it’s tacky if it is specified on the invites, but I do think 20-30 per person is high and could get you dinner if you are flexible and shop around.
Post # 6
I’m doing full southern bbq buffet for under $30 a person, including servers!
Post # 7
As a fellow Seattle bee, I feel you on the “Yikes!” when looking for a caterer. I went to a friend’s wedding last year, and they had a “heavy appetizer” reception. I actually really liked it–there was plenty of food, and people could snack as much or as little as they wanted. They went with an appetizer buffet because there was no room to set up tables in their reception venue. My expectation as a guest for their wedding was that there would be less food than there actually was. I ate a lot and could have eaten more. Their reception actually started about the same time as yours, so I don’t think it’s tacky. The only potential problem I see is if there’s not enough time between your ceremony and reception (or before both) for guests to grab a more substantial dinner AND the appetizers are light.
I agree with PPs that $20-$30pp seems high, even in Seattle, for appetizers.