(Closed) Yikes – I think I want to get a new e-ring 3 months before wedding. Am I wrong?!

posted 4 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Should I change my e-ring?
    Yes, go get the one you want the most! : (33 votes)
    24 %
    No, you already have your e-ring. Anything else is just more jewelry. : (24 votes)
    17 %
    No, it's inconsiderate to your fiancé. : (23 votes)
    17 %
    Yes, but only if your fiancé is OK with that. : (58 votes)
    42 %
  • Post # 31
    4257 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2009

    I don’t see the problem with getting what you want if your Fiance is on board and you can afford it.  I would not break the original down though, I would wear it as my RHR.  And since you want a simple sol, it should not be a problem to get it done before you wedding.

    Post # 32
    606 posts
    Busy bee

    ktk1ns: I don’t think you should go buy your own but I do have a non-traditional suggestion…..what about instead of a wedding band hubby gets you a solitare engagement ring? There are enhancers out there that look like your engagement ring. Have a jeweller tweek your ring and your hubby can give you a solitare diamond ring on your wedding day to be “enhanced” by this ring!!!! Non traditional but you sound a little non traditional. 🙂 this is what I mean….but round obvs. I think a jeweller would just relocate the band…..shouldn’t need extra gold and then you get to keep your original ring and you get an “upgrade” on your big day. And you dont offend hubby by buying your own ring. Lol.

    Post # 33
    2680 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    ktk1ns:  I don’t have any advice, but just wanted to say I LOVE your ring. There’s something effortlessly cool about it…it has the same feel as some of the rings sold at Catbird. Even if you get a new ring, I hope you’ll continue wearing this one!

    Post # 34
    2125 posts
    Buzzing bee

    italianbride0508:  Thank you! I totally agree that you only get one engagement ring. Beyond that, they’re replacements. Not many bees seem to look at it this way though. 

    Post # 35
    1336 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016 - Painswick Church and the Falcon Hotel

    I personally wouldn’t change it because it’s the ring that he proposed with! Just because your family members have ‘big rocks’ doesn’t mean you have to be different it’s a very pretty ring 

    Post # 36
    22 posts
    • Wedding: December 2016

    Hi! Actually I had almost the similar situation. My Fiance bought me Ering with very small diamond while I expected bigger one. As occured later it was my fault not to discuss with him what I actually wanted. And he didn’t bothered about size or quality of diamond just bought the ring which looked nice to him.  It’s nice but absolutely not Ering of my dream. I told honestlly to my Fiance about my feelings. And we bought another one which I like very much.

    So, I think you should not keep it inside of your head and discuss with your Fiance. I’m sure he wants you to be happy and will understand you. Because often men even dont realize how important can be Ering for girls)

    Post # 37
    1815 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    We got married 25 years ago and both of us were in university. We had no money. My hubby bought me a $125 ring that was the wedding band part of the set – promising to buy me the engagement ring part later. For our wedding we got matching plain gold bands. 3 years later he got me the engagement ring – but it was still a very small diamond, and I wanted bigger. 

    I should point out my hubby is from Finland / grew up in Australia – so doesnt take engagement ring as seriously as we do in North America 

    I waited 25 years – but this year we went all out and got the ring I always wanted. It’s gorgeous – I still wear my old rings on my left hand, as they’ve been there 25 years – and my new set on the right hand. It’s still not as big as most people here – but at least it’s over 1 ct – which is better than the 0.07 ct I had before! 

    I wish I would have gotten my new ring earlier. I feel like I missed 25 years with my incredible ring. I know we couldn’t afford it back then – but if you can afford one, I URGE you to get the one you want NOW.  COther people here have some great ideas – like using the old ring as an inhancer for a new solitaire. im not a fan of halos – so that wouldn’t work for me. If I was you I would just get the ring or wedding set you want now. Keep the original as a keepsake, have it made into a necklace – there are a lot of options – but don’t wait like I did. Get the ring you want if you guys can afford it. Tell your Fiance the truth – it’s a good policy anyway, as you’re going to be spending the next 50 years with him! 

    Post # 38
    840 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    It would be a gorgeous pendant, that is true!

    Post # 39
    159 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015 - Gardens

    You can upgrade at anytime!

    I had to choose something more practical because of finances at the time we got married, now a year after getting married I got my dream ring and couldn’t be happier. People forget that it’s the meaning of the ring that counts, it dosnt matter if it’s the ring you where proposed to with or what was on your finger at the wedding, your the one who has to wear it forever so go with what you like and I’m sure your fiancé would want you to love your ring 

    Post # 40
    463 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I would do it, if your fiancé doesn’t mind!:) I actually did something similar. I like my engagement ring, but we have been engaged for 6 years and I was itching for something different. I had to buy a wedding band for the wedding anyway, so instead of getting a new band, I took my moms engagement ring and wedding band from when she was with my dad (divorced, she gifted it to me at 18) and had them reset in white gold. So it’s like a whole new set for me. 

    I spoke to my fiancé about my idea and he was hesitant at first because he thought it meant I didn’t like my current e ring. I told him I do love it, I just wanted something different. I’m going to wear my current e ring at the wedding on my right hand, and after we’re married I’ll just wear it on my left hand when I don’t feel like wearing my full set 

    Post # 43
    1815 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    Congratulations!!! It’s beautiful. 

    Post # 44
    510 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    Wow that is just beautiful!! I am glad you guys talked it over and made the decision together. He sounds like a great guy. It is also nice that you decided to keep your first ring as it was. You will be able to wear it on your other hand whenever you want and enjoy the memories it brings back 🙂 

    Post # 45
    327 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    Beautiful ring! So glad you found one that you love! Congratulations ❤️

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