Post # 1
We got the invite to our friend’s wedding today it’s in December on a remote island in far north queensland Australia. I live in sydney we booked our flights they cost about $600 return for both of us then the cheapest room is $377 per night and were staying 3 nights. Plus the return boat transfers are $199 per adult so all up we will have to spend $2130 just for 3 nights 🙁 I’m sure it will be amazing (let’s hope so, they have never been there themselves) but yea their wedding is 2 months after ours so were gonna be so broke afterwards lol pretty sure they will be doing a wishing well like we are for ours but dunno how much we should give considering we’re spending so much as it is! we can’t not go to it as Fiance is best man plus we want to go but I think they might of been stretched for choices as I’m sure most people can’t afford to go!
Post # 3
Wow, that accommodation is really expensive. Are there maybe apartments you could share with a few people? That might cut down the cost.
People who are having destination weddings (which I’m presuming this is) will always have a wishing well/present table just in case guests turn up with something, but they won’t expect anything from anyone, they know that their guests have already spent enough money getting to their wedding. Also, being a best man, your Fiance has probably forked out a lot more money that most guests.
Post # 4
@cuddlz88: Yikes! I agree with the PP, I would check out any suites to see if you could share.
Post # 5
This is why I hate destination weddings! That’s a lot of money for 3 days!!!
Post # 6
@cuddlz88: have you booked the accom? Have they provided alternative accom options?
Post # 7
That’s rough, I would honestly try to share a room with someone else or skip it. That’s a large chunk of change.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t pay that, I couldn’t even afford that haha! I think as PP have said how about shared accomodation?
Post # 9
@cuddlz88: I have a friend who’s in this exact situation, except she’s going to Mexico for a Destination Wedding. If I was in your situation, I would have my fiancé go by himself as he is the best man, and I would sit this one out. It is too expensive for you to both be going and having your wedding 2 months later is a time crunch and a financial crunch. Obviously it is not ideal to stay back when I’m sure you want to be with Fiance and on a vacation, but to me, my wedding is more important than others (especially since you know they won’t be paying a fraction of this for your wedding)
Post # 10
that’s as much as we are spending on our 5 night honeymoon! i personally wouldn’t go, but if you really want to i would think about sharing a room or something. i hate destination weddings..
Post # 11
Oh, wow, that’s really expensive! It’s tough trying to balance the perfect wedding location with the costs the guests have to manage 🙁
Post # 12
Ugh, we got invited to a wedding on Airlie Beach, but it was going to cost us a fortune to get there so we had to decline. I think only 30 people made it over there!
Post # 13
That is an expensive wedding!! Any accommodations a little further away that are cheaper in the area?!? They can’t be expecting gifts with the amount attendees are going to have to spend to be there! You presence is the wedding present 🙂
Post # 14
There is only one resort on the whole island so it’s the only place we can stay. We don’t know anyone else whose going so we couldn’t exactly share a room with anyone. We both have to go. I seriously think he was limited to options for a best man so my Fiance was asked because he told him we were going.. It’s all good to have a destination wedding but seriously why choose a location that is soooo unaffordable!!! It better be pretty damn special for the money we have to fork out! i wish Fiance hadn’t just straight away said yes to us both going. They could have had a wedding just as nice in Fiji or somewhere for a fraction of the price we have to pay.. There goes our plans to travel next year! 🙁
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
We would regretfully decline and send them a nice congratulatory gift. $2K is way too much to attend a three day wedding as a guest, even if your SO is a groomsman.
Post # 16
@cuddlz88: If I was spending $2k to go to someone’s wedding, I wouldn’t be gifting them a cent, honestly.