Post # 1
I hope that this doesn’t sound like i’m a terrible person –but I just never imagined having wings, beer, and pizza for the rehersal dinner. I love wings and pizza, but for a rehersal?? Wings can get pretty messy, with the sauce ending up on the fingers, clothes, and face.
I wanted to have a nice dinner, but nothing too fancy. I even think a BBQ at our house whould be better than this! Problem is, our home isn’t big enough for our guests! I know that I need to keep into consideration that monies are tight for my FI’s family right now. So am I being ridiculous?? Anyone have any ideas of where we could have an inexpensive rehersal dinner??
Post # 3
A low key rehearsal dinner can be really fun! I have been to some in nice restaurants but it seems like you never really get to talk to anybody and it is always too formal. That’s why we are doing a casual bbq at a city park building. We can keep it casual, fun and cheap but not too cheap, if you know what I mean.
Post # 4
@ Holly–my friend did a pizza and beer rehearsal dinner. All I remember was the bride pounding beers with her dad–and the groom and groomsman drinking far too much. It can definitely get out of hand if you let it. There are a lot of places that cater to bigger parties like this.
What state are you in so I can figure out what place to recommend?
Post # 5
Honestly, if you’re not paying, it’s not really up to you. Casual rehearsal dinners aren’t that uncommon, and honestly, that sounds very appealing to me personally. If you want to save money, having casual food is the #1 way to do so.
If you would like more fancy food, can you offer to help FI’s family with the cost?
Post # 6
No I don’t think that you are a terrible person for wanting something just a tad bit nicer. Can you compromise and maybe do an O’dourves dinner where you can have some wings with different sauces, but paired with shirmp kabobs, egg rolls, boiled shirmp on ice, fresh fruit and such.
Post # 7
My favorite rehearsal dinners have tended to be the more casual ones–it seems like everyone is better able to relax at them. That said, if you feel like you wouldn’t be happy with pizza, beer, and wings, I think it would be fine to talk with Fiance about how you feel.
It might help to have some other ideas in mind to suggest when you talk to him. Can you think of any alternatives that would be easier to eat but not stretch the budget too much? My cousin sprung for a gorgeous location but had sandwiches & salads to save a little–no one seemed to mind. A friend reserved an area at a beautiful park and her family made homemade Chinese food and BBQ–it was all delicious. Do you guys have a favorite bakery or cafe that might be able to cater something? Just a few ideas. Good luck 🙂
Post # 8
Perhaps pizza, beer and wine as a compromise? Explain that you’re concerned about the mess of a food like wings, but perhaps you can find a nicer pizza place?
Post # 9
If you’re worried about too much drinking, maybe limit it to 1 or 2 beers per person & then have soda/water available??
Be sure to have PLENTY of napkins. When I go out to eat pizza or wings I rarely make a mess, there’s always the possiblity of something spilling. It just sounds fun & casual thou, it doesn’t sound cheap at all.
If you’re against it, maybe find out how much all that would be & then if you can afford to pay the price difference to “upgrade” to something more fancy? I love pizza & wings so it sounds good to me 🙂
Post # 10
I agree with most of the previous posters that it may allow for a laid back atmoshere. However, putting myself in your shoes if we do decide to have a rehearsal dinner I would not be so keen on the pizza n wings. Mayeb you can help pitch in if you would like something nicer. Or maybe it can just be a hordervous and wine kinda party
Post # 11
Thanks for your comments ladies. No I am not paying, yet… so I know I do not have a say in the matter. My FI’s family is putting into $2,000.00. For about 50 people. (I wanted to invite my aunts and cousins, but my FI says no.) If it goes over that amount my Fiance and I probably will be paying the rest. I guess I wanted to make and show a slideshow of pics.
Vintage2010 I do like the idea of O’dourves for the rehersal!
Btw, I am in Tampa Florida.
Post # 12
Oh no I guess I am definitely on your Fiance side. I actually am wanting to have our rehearsal dinner at our fav pizza place. Its a place that everyone we know loves! I always thought the rehearsal dinner is a bit more relaxed for everyone to enjoy themselves before the formal side of the reception dinner. I would agree with sapphire maybe you could compromise and find somewhere that sells these items but also has alot more variety.
Post # 13
I have to agree with your Fiance, but this is just part of who my Fiance and I are. We met in college in Buffalo. So naturally we are going to be having Buffalo Wings at our rehearsal dinner.
It really depends on what type of atmosphere you are going for, maybe you could compromise and have a little of both? Pizza, wings, elegant food too?
Post # 14
Why are there 50 people at the rehearsal dinner? Do you have a huge bridal party? That sounds as big as some weddings, and if that’s the headcount and $2000. is budgeted for it,I think your Fiance has the right idea. I know most brides usually want something ‘nice’, but honestly, its much more fun in a more relaxed atmosphere.
I understand the messy factor too, but if everyone is eating the same thing and enjoying themselves, I think its a great idea! Nobody will be in evening attire that night anyway and the families involved will be exhausted. Keep it simple…and it will still be memorable.
Post # 15
Can you cut down the guest list at all? 50 people is really big, so maybe just wedding party and immediate family?
I always thought rehearsal dinners were smaller affairs. Of course, you CAN invite as many as you want, but then you have to compromise on the food and the per person cost….it’s all a matter of tradeoffs 🙂
Post # 16
I would personally LOVE a pizza, beer, and wings dinner. NOM NOM NOM! Nothing’s better for bonding with people than telling them that they have wing sauce in their hair 🙂