Post # 1
It was all going way too smoothly, so I guess I should have been prepared. Everything booked, wedding dress and wedding rings in hand. It’s a small family wedding (35-40 guests) and fairly casual, so I felt like we were just happily sailing through all the preparations, stress-free . . .
We had called and booked the reception venue 7 weeks ago. It’s a beautiful little restaurant close by the ceremony site, with wonderful food, and it’s so nicely decorated we wouldn’t have to anything but add some flowers. We booked it for a Sunday night, when they are not normally open, so that we can have the place to ourselves.
This past weekend we met with the owner and his wife, the chef – who are our neighbors, and casual but not close friends. We had a great 2-hour meeting in which we went over all the menu details, timing, etc. I was feeling really great about how beautiful and delicious the buffet would be!
So I get a call from them tonight, 4 weeks before the wedding, to say that they are so sorry, they “forgot” and booked another event that night – a soccer dinner that can’t be canceled because tickets are already being sold.
This is upcountry Hawaii and things are done local style – no money had changed hands. But wow, I’m floored that they think they can just back out and leave me hanging. I have no idea what we’ll do at this late date and am trying hard not to freak out . . .
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre
@wahine777: YIKES!!! Friendship OFF! I would send an email, since I never get everything across that I want to when I’m upset. Hopefully they can understand what a disaster this is for you, and that you already have everything committed for that date (same as ‘selling tickets’, no? Flowers / travel / ceremony booked)…
Post # 4
Holy crap…I would have a shit fit!
Post # 5
no money had changed hands but what about a contract?
and too BAD they’ve been selling tickets – you’ve been planning an entire wedding around it. a soccer party can take place almost anywhere and does not need the level of planning or fancy ness etc that a wedding does, they can find an alternate venue way easier than you
don’t let them just cancel you! fight for your venue and if they allow you to stay, get it in writing.
Post # 6
and if they DON’T change their mind – reviews. everywhere. no more friendship!
Post # 7
Sounds like they cancelled on you because they thought you’d take it better because of your amity with them. Throw that out the window and ask them why this other function is more important than your WEDDING. You might find it’s because the soccer place are spending more cash/are repeat customers and they don’t want to lose out financially.
But stand your ground this is your day – don’t stand for it!
Post # 8
Holy crap, I’d be pissed. Do you have any kind of contract?