(Closed) Yikes, only 1 no so far!

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

People wait to send in a no, especially those who aren’t 100% in their plans. I got most of my no’s towards the end. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Yikes! This is probably my biggest fear because we truly are only planning and budgeting for 150 ish and are inviting 175-185. 

But it’s super awesome everyones ready to support you on your big day!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree that most no’s come in at the last minute or not at all. People wait until they are sure they can’t make it before sending back a no.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am going through this too. We sent our invitations three weeks ago and the RSVP date is in one week (August 13) and we have gotten like 100 yes’s and only 15 no’s. We invited approximately 300 guests and I am really hoping for no more than 200-220 so if most of the stragglers are no’s that would be great!

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Agh I just went through this myself and just wanted to say that yes, most of the immediate responses are yes. These are people who have likely decided that they would attend once they got the save the date. After that, the next couple weeks will be mixed yes and no, and then once you reach the point where calls are being made to check with those who didn’t respond, the majority would be no, they were just dragging their feet a bit and seeing how things played out in their own lives. However this may not be the way it always goes but I do believe those who have already decided they will attend make a point to respond quickly. My wedding is out of state for a lot of the guests though so my experience may be different. Those who are able to attend are using it as an excuse for a vacation and as such, planning is required.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

we invited 300, were hoping for 250, and are ending up at 221 – which makes me sad, bc i wanted the 250.  But yeah, all the “nos” came towards the end.  It’s fun – you get mail everyday, and it’s all exciting. And then a week or so after, things taper off, and you start tracking down those damn people to find out where their invite us, and to get the “nos.” Also, apparently, people apparently assume that if they don’t respond, that means we know they’re not coming.  Weirdos 🙂 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am in the same boat. So far out of 143 we have 82 yes and 0 no. We can afford to pay for all 143, but I would rather not. Our invites went out july 10th (so about a month ago). RSVPs are not due until sept 17, but come on someone has to have something else to do that day. 

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Please, do not fret too much! As I previously stated, those who respond immediately have already considered your wedding and made appropriate plans to attend. When it comes to the rest of them they will be more mixed when it comes to yes or no. As I was going through this I was losing sleep and getting increasingly anxious because there is a limit at my venue but fmil kept adding guests. It will even out and eventually turn to no’s and maybe’s once you get past the RSVP date. But once again my experience may be different. I grew up several states away from where I landed and met my fiancé but we are getting married close to my hometown since he used to vacation there as a child. So overall, a lot of people will be traveling from out of state. Upon slight confrontation with fmil she told me not to worry,that the universe always give us what we need… I decided if she wasn’t worried then I wouldn’t either and my end total has come in on the higher range of our expected but in the range of possible. Now I’m just wondering where kids count when it comes to caterers bill because there are a couple of people who have not respected our preferably adult event. My wedding is still a few weeks away so I am certainly not an expert, just trying to vent my experience thus far.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I got the same thing, and started to freak out.  Luckily, the PP are right and most of my no’s came at the end.  We’re now almost perfectly at our estimated number.

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