- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
**Several Bees have an idea the circumstances I’m dealing with when it comes to my mother. For those of you that do not, please see my other posts on the subject before chewing me out for not being sympathetic to her self-inflicted plight.
Background: my mean-spirited/chronic-lying/volatile/imbalanced mother is on her way out of her 5th marriage. For the last 2 years, she has told anyone that will listen how much she hates her “cheap, piece of shit” husband and wanted to divorce him. But, now that he beat her to the punch and filed first, she’s suddenly on this Heartbroken Wife routine when she’s not spitting venom about him. He had her served in February and she moved out. That’s 5 months ago.
This morning at 8am, I received the following text message:
“That stupid fucking bastard is already on dating websites! How dare him! We are married and that is CHEATING!”
Instead of ignoring it, I replied “So what? He’s not your problem anymore.”
This, in turn, opened up the “he-is-CHEATING-ON-ME” floodgates.
Here is what I want to say to her but am saying here instead:
1. He is not cheating on you. Yes, you may still be legally married, but you can pretty much consider the relationship over when he serves you with papers and you moved out…5 fucking months ago.
2. What are YOU doing on dating websites? Other than stalking him. If I recall, the first thing you did after moving was set up a Facebook and add every guy you ever went to school with and started messaging them to see if they live in the area. Pot, meet Kettle.
3. The only reason you’re suddenly beating this dead horse is because your attorney (stupidly) told you that you could get more money if infidelity could be proved.
4. Good luck with the Heartbroken Wife routine: you’ve already told everyone you know (or don’t know), including the police and the courts, how he *supposedly* verbally abused you, left you to ‘starve’/wouldn’t buy you groceries, that the movers found a loaded shotgun he put under your bed and that he tried to kill your pets. All of these claims 100% unsubstantiated.