You all have the memory of an elephant – How?!

posted 3 weeks ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Busy bee

You can look back at someone’s post/comment history. Some people are also known for their drama. 

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

If you click on someone’s name you can see the threads they started and commented on.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

It’s often less about the user name and more about other “clues”.  Things like writing style, details about the topic, miss-used words, how the poster responds to advice (usually a combination of those types of things) stand out like a flashing neon sign.

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Busy bee

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@mpritchtobe1984:  This is me!  I don’t pay that much attention and rarely take time to look up post histories to connect dots, etc.  

Post # 9
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Helper bee

Google cache. If its on the internet, its not deleted. 

Often as pps said, something they say will trigger a memory of “this sounds familiar”. A big clue is a high post #, but no posts under their name. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

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@mpritchtobe1984:  There are some posters who stand out because they make the same posts repeatedly. The tone is the same, the situation is the same, and their response to comments is the same. For example, there’s one poster who will keep asking questions as to why their SO does things, rather than just accept they do. There’s another who ignores any comments that say something they don’t like, and only responds to comments that somewhat agree with their POV. There’s another poster who is fixated with certain things – I’m not going to call them out here. But with this poster, I can read the OP or comment and know who it is, go back and check and see I’m right. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

I have experienced this here as well. I like you, rarely pay attention to names or profile pictures. I have learned to at least glance every now and then, especially if it’s someone whom I feel has helped me or been kind or something. 

I also, really only notice the names if it’s a bully comment or off comment or “that type of comment” and I notice those tend to be the same handful people. 

I woulnd’t really spend the time personally to go through peoples comment history or whatever it was to keep track. That seems like too much for me. I remember saying that once to someone who made a similar comment to me ages ago about something   ” Based on your previous post you …” Ugh, why are you looking at my history like that? It feels strange. Now, some posts are trolls or people who delet posts when they get varied answers and people tend to make those same comments to them but again, I just don’t get the need. 

Oh well. Still love weddingbee. 

I dunno if any of this is helpful but at least I know I’m not alone in this as I have often wondered the same thing, 

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Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

Some posts are just so memorable they stick with you. Even if the post is deleted, the memory of what was there lingers. It’s just a matter of recognizing the op, either by username, mentioning of again of their circumstances in the new thread, or writing style. One op got banned for repeatedly detailing threads and she got called out for who she was when she came back under a different username…THREE TIMES. Generally, the threads about abuse stand out the most because we worry about the person even if there may be tones of frustration in our replies–that happens if they’re posting in circles of denial and won’t do anything to help themselves. So… I’m pretty certain I know which thread prompted your post. 😉

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Buzzing bee

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@Goirishgrl:  

Yes, srsly, sometimes it’s just obvies.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

I know that I tend to remember the names of posters who do “dirty deletes” because it pisses me off so much that they delete threads after so many bees have taken time/energy to contirbute feedback, advice, etc.  I guess I take a mental snapshot of their name and a mental synopsis of the situation, since history has shown so many of them come back and post the same thing again.

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