(Closed) You and SO/FI/DH! You feel lucky dontcha!

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Which applies to you?
    I am blessed/lucky to have found SO/FI/DH : (81 votes)
    66 %
    Im pretty easy going I'd be just as happy with someone else. : (2 votes)
    2 %
    He's lucky to have found me! : (38 votes)
    31 %
    Other...explain. : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    9759 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    i feel very lucky, he is amazing πŸ™‚ although he says the same about me πŸ™‚

    Post # 4
    4655 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    He’s HONEST! Sometimes brutally so, but I’m obsessed with honesty, so I prefer it ALWAYS. Few things are more devestating to me than discovering I’ve been lied to. I think I’d rather be beaten than deceived. (Not that he would ever do either.) I have a kind of… forceful personality and have dated people who have lied to me either because they didn’t have a lot of courage in their convictions or they did something disrespectful and wanted to get away with it… and I don’t generally put up with that without giving out an earful. (I make a point to be gentler if they’re honest off the bat though!!)

    Fiance is 100% honest always, very loyal, and isn’t afraid to stand up to me when he wants something or thinks he’s right. He argues with LOGIC over feeling wherever possible. In the moment when I think I’m right it can be infuriating but at every other time I’m so so so glad he did and love him for it. 

    Post # 6
    1782 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I feel like I am the lucky one really because my Fiance stood by me when I had a major back operation when we had only been dating 2 years. I was in the hospital for 7 days – and he stayed by my bed side every night. If I needed anything he went and got it, including anything that I was told “No” to, like a peice of pizza (smuggled in…) he was wonderful. I had also stayed with him during my recovery – and we have lived together ever since. We get along like 2 peas in a pod. I am definitely the lucky one! Could not imagine my life without him.

    Post # 7
    2546 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Honestly, I feel so blessed. Right now in my life, it is the happiest times.

    The funny thing is, when I was a kid growing up I dreamed of having what I have right now, a nice little bi-level home with one kid and a husband, wonderful friends and family. It’s all I ever asked for, prayed for, dreamed about at night, and one day it all just came true. I always think about how wierd it is that my childhood fantasies are living right now. Only thing missing is I’m not a teacher, lol.

    Post # 9
    2393 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @Happy Hopeful Bee:  

    So, just for fun, what is THE one thing about SO/FI/DH that made you go wow, this man is IT for me? What about him was different from previous guys? And what’s THE one thing that keeps you guys together no matter what? (besides love obviously)


    I love this thread! I love this question!


    My Darling Husband would say he’s the lucky one. But I strongly am convinced that I am the luckier one to have found him.

    I was in my 40s when I met him and in all of my previous relationships that ended, the guys went on to date or marry women who were much younger than me. I had a real complex that I was over the hill.  Darling Husband completely shattered that whole stereotype in my head. He is three years older than me and very well off financially — if he had wanted a trophy wife, he could have had one, but he has always made it clear that he loves me exactly for who I am and that he is not interested in finding a babe who is 10 or 20 years younger with a perfect figure. (No offense to all the 20- and 30-something Weddingbee babes out there! Haha!) I also was in a very bad place financially when we met — I was going through a messy foreclosure and bankruptcy — and he rescued me when my car broke, paid for repairs, etc. until I could get back on my feet.


      1. I LOVE (with great big capital letters and hearts floating around it) that he tells me he is happy to be married to me, proud to be married to me, and that he feels lucky that we are together. After years of feeling insecure and “less than” in previous relationships, I feel sooo safe and secure now.
      2.   I LOVE the gentle tone in his voice when he tells me he loves me over the phone.
      3. I LOVE the way he laughs when we watch TV and something funny comes on.
      4. I LOVE the way he always, always holds my hand wherever we go, and always holds the door for me. 
      5. I love that he has great integrity and character. He is a self-made man. He grew up poor and ended up becoming a successful lawyer. Nothing has been handed to him in life. He did everything all by himself.
      6. Have I mentioned how smart he is?

      I could go on and on!



      Post # 11
      2393 posts
      Buzzing bee

      @Happy Hopeful Bee:  


      Thank you HappyHopefulBee!


      Every day I thank my lucky stars that we were brought together by good old eHarmony! For a long time, I’ve been meaning to send them a thank you letter!


      Post # 12
      1360 posts
      Bumble bee

      He talked to me, and actually listened to my responses. He made me laugh and did so without trying to make a ‘move’. He was just genuinely sweet. It was incredible, and so foreign to me.

      It was also wonderful that once we did start officially dating, he would (and still does) treat me like I was something precious.

      Post # 14
      1212 posts
      Bumble bee
      • Wedding: September 2014

      It’s hard for me to explain. In the past, every time a relationship would hit a snag, I’d cut and run. Things would be great, but as soon as things got difficult, I’d be over it. I also got bored with people really easily. I was always into relationships, but after a year or so, I couldn’t stand someone. 

      I was worried something was wrong with me, that I just couldn’t get attached. But my SO has this magical hold on me or something. He challenges me – I am NEVER bored in this relationship. I can’t imagine my life without him. 

      When I look back on past relationships, I dated a lot of guys who were perfect on paper. I got lucky that I dated some truly amazing people. I dated one guy who was handsome, talented, motivated and incredibly sweet. He was an artist who painted pictures of me and planned super romantic dates and brought me flowers every week. He was the stuff of romance novels…but he bored me to tears. 

      My SO has a lot of great qualities, but there’s nothing on paper that would scream “this is IT! This is the one for you!” It’s something beneath the surface that I can’t pinpoint. It’s just like this natural connection. 

      Post # 15
      705 posts
      Busy bee
      • Wedding: February 1993

      I voted for all three; I believe and hope I could love another as much as I love him (especially if something were to happen to him, god forbid), but I also believe we’re both very lucky to have found each other.  We’re an incredibly well-suited match.

      Post # 16
      325 posts
      Helper bee
      • Wedding: September 2011

      My track record with dating indicated that I also got bored with people easily as one of the other ladies said. And even when I started dating Darling Husband, my friends and family said, “Oh boy, here’s another one, he won’t last.”  But for some reason he did! 

      We just fit so well. I can just be myself around him, and we never had that awkward first date type moment where you’re really trying to impress each other. We like a lot of the same things, but enough different things to push and challenge and expand each other. We support each other, comfort each other, he treats me like a princess and I take care of him in return, and we go through life together.

      He’s my best friend in that we love just hanging out and always have.  I literally can’t imagine continuing my life without my best friend.

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