(Closed) You are gonna think I am CRAZY (spin off post)

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

if everybody’s cool with it, why wouldn’t you do it? especially because it sounds like you would really like that.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

I don’t think its crazy.  It’s kinda sweet of you to be willing to share yopur day with your friend.  But maybe at the end of the night? lol

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

No, you’re not crazy, and I think that is a perfectly adorable idea!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Well I think its crazy because I would never want to do it…kind of like cliff diving. But that doesn’t mean it actually is crazy and it sounds like it would be a total surprise and kinda cute.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Sounds like a cool idea to me!  I dont think it can detract from your wedding.  People will congratulate her, take a quick look at the ring, then go back to partying at your wedding.  I mean, no ones gonna have to ask her for the proposal story or anything like that or ask her if she has any plans yet.  There wouldnt be much to talk about except “congrats!”

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper

being that its your idea, i see nothing wrong with it!  however, i also wonder about how your friend would feel being proposed to at someone else’s wedding.  I might feel bad since it is someone else’s wedding.  and i guess it depends if you think your friend prefers a public or private proposal.  I personally wanted private (and got the perfect one!), because i see it as a moment between only those two people.   but i see no harm is suggesting it and the guy should know his gf well enough to know if its the right thing to do or not.

 

ETA: i guess what i am also saying is that while your idea is great (catching the bouquet and garter), it is still YOUR idea.  As the proposee, what i think makes its special is that your boyfriend comes up with a nice idea on his own and puts it together.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

Can I just say how thoughtful this is of you? I think it’s a great idea! I do agree with PurpleUnicorn though…make sure that when you mention it to your friend’s boyfriend that he’s comfortable doing it at your wedding and you aren’t forcing him into it. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Aw I think that’s really sweet of you to “share” your thunder! I’ll admit that I’m too self-centered a bride to do this…  but good for you and I hope it works out!

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper

@RahlyRah:  i think your post and  pinkshoes comment – 

I dont think it can detract from your wedding.  People will congratulate her, take a quick look at the ring, then go back to partying at your wedding.

– made me think even more about this from the other side so to speak (as the person getting engaged). Based on what pinkshoes said, i almost think it might suck to get proposed to at a wedding like that!  I mean, it IS the bride’s day, and i remember when i got engaged, i wanted to enjoy the moment and soak it up.  Then i was excited to call everyone and tell them the story.  So i don’t think i would like feeling like “oh i just got engaged, i want to sing it from the rooftops, but i can’t because i have to go back to being at my friend’s wedding”.  and no one could gush over the ring, which is also part of the fun in telling your proposal story.

Sorry to put a damper on your idea, i still think you are a totally sweet friend for coming up with it and wanting to do it.  And maybe it would have a different feel to it than the way pinkshoes described.  But if it is like “oh you’re engaged, congrats, now we can ignore it for the rest of the night”, i would just think that is kind of sucky….

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Personally I wouldnt like to be proposed to at someone elses wedding, nor would I like for someone else to be proposed to at mine.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think it’s a totally fun and sweet idea!  If J likes the idea and thinks H would like it and you two are on board, then I’d say go for it (and get pics!!)!  I don’t think it would take away from EITHER day.  The bride and groom are happy because it was their idea and they want to see their friends get engaged and be happy.  H & J get some awesome photos of their engagement and a fun proposal story to tell.  I see that as win-win.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think it’s really cute, and I wouldn’t mind at all if someone proposed at my wedding.  All I really cared about was the ceremony, I didn’t need people fawning over me and gushing about me all night.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Another plus is that you’ll have a photographer there who can document the special moment for her! What a cute idea!

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