(Closed) you are more beautiful than you think

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Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@mjoyelle:  exactly!!! 

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@rawrrrrr:  I really do appreciate what you’re saying, and descriptively I think everything you’re saying is spot on.  Prescriptively, however, I don’t know if reinforcing a harmful model is worth the temporary boost you get from feeling empowered within that model.  That said, I can’t deny that it makes me feel good when someone thinks I’m pretty, and I put a lot of effort into trying to make myself look beautiful, but I wish I could like myself even though I can’t always succeed.  Because I’m a better person when I forget about it for a while.  I have more fun, I’m better to be around, and honestly – I probably come across as prettier when I forget about it entirely.

So… I guess I don’t really know what I mean, I just want to be able to value myself even if I look like the pictures on the left.  The “this is a lie” point that the blog author makes is in reference to the idea that our value IS commensurate with our beauty.  I want that idea to be lie.  I want to have value even if I’m not attractive, even if I don’t have a nice, cute, short nose.  I think you’re right that it’s an ideal goal and not a description of reality though.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Lovemelovemyhorses:  Same here! I eat like crap but I’m still slim. It took me a while to like that about myself, but I’m thankful for it now. I also love my height and my curves.I’m trying to focus more on what I do like than what I’m self conscious about and I’m getting better at it!

Post # 22
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mjoyelle: I just came back to share that same article.  Here’s the last paragraph, which I really liked:

 

What you look like should not affect the choices that you make. It should certainly not affect the friends you make—the friends that wouldn’t want to be in relationship with you if you did not meet a certain physical standard are not the friends that you want to have. Go out for jobs that you want, that you’re passionate about. Don’t let how good looking you feel like you are affect the way way that you treat your children. And certainly do not make how well you feel you align with the strict and narrow “standard” that the beauty industry and media push be critical to your happiness, because you will always be miserable. You will always feel like you fall short, because those standards are designed to keep you constantly pressured into buying things like make up and diet food and moisturizer to reach an unattainable goal. Don’t let your happiness be dependent on something so fickle and cruel and trivial. You should feel beautiful, and Dove was right about one thing: you are more beautiful than you know. But please, please hear me: you are so, so much more than beautiful. “

 

Post # 23
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Surely the artist being paid by dove knew the point of the ad and was therefore drawing unflattering images for round one? 

I dont see what this proves. 

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