Post # 1
So Fiance and I are a destination wedding. Our resort is 3 in 1, all our guests are staying at the Iberostar Suites (which is the middle level, super nice) Fiance and I are staying at the Iberostar Grand (gorgeous and adults only). We are staying here because people from the Suites cant come to the Grand but we can go to the Suites and we are getting married at the Suites, we just upgraded to the Grand so we could be alone when we wanted to after the wedding…..(we will spend the mojority of our time at the Suites with everyone but just want the option to be alone if we want to) soooo anyhoo, my girlfriend called me and left a message yesterday saying she tried to book for the wedding (not to mention she is 2 months late, deposits were due May 17th!) and now there is only room at the Grand all the rooms are booked at the Suites, so she says “Ill probably just stay at the Grand so call me so we can figure things out” How do I tell her we dont want her to stay at the Grand, I know I dont rule the resorts but we really want to be alone the day after the wedding. If she doesnt stay at the Grand then she cant go because the Suites are completely sold out. Tough luck for waiting so long? should I “let” her stay at the Grand??? Ugh so annoyed because now I have to be the bad guy or suck it up and let her come to the Grand when we didnt want that……..
Post # 3
I don’t think you can tell guests where they can and can’t stay, if they’re paying for it, if you’re paying it’s another story. I doubt she’ll bother you that much, but it comes down to how bad you want her there, I guess.
Post # 4
I would just tell her that you guys are planning on being alone after the wedding, most people will assume that anyways. Unless you don’t want this person going, it doesn’t sound like there is another option…
Post # 5
How often do you even see the person in the hotel room next to yours? Just let her know you’re glad she’s coming, but you hope she doesn’t spend the extra money for no reason, since you’re planning on spending most of your time in your room after the wedding “if you know what I mean.”
Post # 6
Just because she’ll be staying there doesn’t necessarily mean she’s going to want to be WITH you and your new husband. You’ll probably never even notice her and will still get a chance to be alone. I’m sure she understands that you’ll have just gotten married and won’t be making joint dinner reservations or anything like that. I say let her stay where she wants – the fact that she’ll be spending the extra money so she can come says something!
Post # 7
@LauraRose: this is your friend and you’d rather her not come to your wedding than stay in the same resort as you??? if it were me, i’d say, i definitely want you to come, but Darling Husband and i are going to limit our socializing after the wedding. just to manage your expectations- we’re not going to keep the party going.
but, really, you are coming off kind of poorly here. this is your friend who is going out of her way to come to your wedding.
Post # 8
You don’t tell her she “can’t” stay there. There will be other people at the resort so its not completely private anyway. If anything you can hint that you two are excited to enjoy the resort privately after the wedding.
Post # 9
I think most people should naturally respect your desire for privacy after the wedding, I’m sure you can communicate that without dictating where she stays.
Post # 10
I think you could tell your guests that you want to be alone the day after the wedding. I’m sure she would understand and would likely be going to the suites where the other guests are anyways. I really think telling her to not come because she can only stay at the grand is really harsh. She is making an effort to come to your wedding and you should be appreciative of that, late or not.
Post # 11
Yeah, I really don’t think she’ll try to hang out after your wedding. It’s obviously your honeymoon? I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 12
You can’t tell your guests where to stay. This is also a vacation for them so they should be able to stay wherever they want.
And resorts are huge so it’s not like you’ll run into them all the time. We had family members stay where we got married/honeymooned and we didn’t see them unless we planned to meet up.
Post # 13
Just because you’re staying there doesn’t mean you have the whole place to yourself. If there aren’t rooms in the Suites, then you either have to let her stay where you are, or tell her not to come. Honestly, she’s not going to be sharing the hotel room with you, I don’t see the big deal. She won’t be spending every second with you after the wedding…
Post # 14
I think your attitude is a bit selfish.
You can’t tell people where they can and can’t stay. Be happy they are making the trip to celebrate with you! They are spending their money and time for you.
I get that you want some alone time but you chose to have a destination wedding. Part of that means, guests will be around.
If you’re really worried, just tell her that the day after the wedding, you and your hubby are planning some alone time.
Post # 15
Let me get this straight…you invited people to a Destination Wedding but are trying to dictate where they spend their money on lodging?
Post # 16
1. I don’t think if you’re inviting people to a DESTINATION wedding, that you should tell them where their money should be spent in relation to their stay.
2. She is your friend, and a close one at that, for you to invite her to your wedding….why would you deliberatly try to keep her from booking a room at “your” resort so she could miss your special day.
3. I don’t think her intentions are to follow you or bother you on your alone time. If she is your friend, let her stay and tell her YOUR intentions…in black and white…she’ll get the idea.
Resort sounds lovely though, so enjoy your wedding!! 🙂