Post # 1
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Bumble bee
Did I just get a text, 2.5 weeks before my wedding, asking if so-and-so could bring a RANDOM +1? His flavor-of-the-month girlfriend that I’ve never met? Seriously? Yes. Yes I did.
Oh yeah, sure. I would love for Ms. I-have-no-idea-who-she-is to participate in the most intimate and important day of my life where I have kept the guest list at 60 because I don’t want to be surrounded by strangers.
And I would love to call my vendor to add another person to our open bar and buffet, because I have so much extra cash lying around that I would just love to pay for this random chick.
And it’s totally no problem that you’re asking me now. 2.5 weeks before my wedding. When you’ve known the +1 policy is restricted to serious relationships for a YEAR since I got engaged.
#firstworldproblems
Really not a big deal in the scheme of things. But I thought you ladies might induldge me.
Post # 3
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Honey bee
@Tangled: it would depend on how close my relationship is with this person.
weddings are not cheap and one more person could be 55-70 extra bucks for someone you dont even know. they betta give a really good gift or a nice envelope hahaha
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
Well, he is a dumb boy that has never planned a wedding, so I’m sure he is not thinking at all about the fact that it would cost more, or that I have already signed a contract for a certain amount with my vendor. He would just be thinking, “What’s the big deal if I bring one extra person to a party?” I’m not really mad at him, or even really annoyed. Mostly, I just feel guilty that I had to say “no,” and I’m annoyed that he made me feel like a jerk!
Post # 5
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Honey bee
Don’t feel like a jerk! Someday he may be in your shoes and realize that adding an extra person last minute is costly. Especially with a small wedding to begin with. It’s annoying though, I agree!
Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
People that haven’t planned a wedding just don’t know most of the time, especially if they’re younger. My friend assumed she was invited with a date to a wedding (she wasn’t) but had no idea. She also wanted to bring this guy she was dating, but then they stopped dating by the time the wedding rolled around and she didn’t understand why the bride was all pissed that she wanted to bring a different date. She’s the sweetest girl ever she just had no idea.
Post # 7
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Busy bee
you should tell him he can bring her but she can’t eat any of the food unless he wants to contact the vendor and pay for it. =P
Post # 8
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6221 posts
Bee Keeper
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
Yay for dumb boys who have no idea what goes into this stuff =/
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
I think tv shows etc ruin what people expect of +1s. Even watching shows/movies when very young I NEVER understood why somebody would bring a friend as a date to a wedding (especially since in these situations it’s always like…their sister’s wedding…so hang out with your family???) and would never have expected a +1 who wasn’t a real true long term (several years) bf or fiance or husband. None of my guests have seemed to expect to get dates either. A couple asked if they could bring gfs, we said the policy is only if you live together or are engaged, it’s $200/person and we don’t want people there we’ve never met. After a few declines we did eventually let the people who asked invite their gfs. Nobody is allowed a “date” though. And nobody has expected one. And other than family, everybody invited is under 25, so it’s not that they’re older and have been to a million weddings or anything.
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
My brother in law told me right after our private ceremony “oh by the way I invited a girl I met at a party this morning” (st pat’s day wedding)… I asked him if he was kidding. He was not. he said “that’s ok right?”
I said well I guess… I have to rearrange the head table (immediate family)… but she ended up sitting at another table. I don’t even think they talked much through the wedding reception. I am still a bit salty about that one. I don’t think he’s talked to her since, either.
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
Don’t feel bad! Hopefully, one day he will be planning a wedding and he will realize what a jerk he was (I certainly made some innocent mistakes as a guest prior to planning a wedding-I now realize my error and have apologize).
Post # 12
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Busy bee
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
Oh lord. How delightful. Hey, at least he asked, though, right? It could be worse. I don’t know about you but I don’t think my poker face would hold up if some random person just… appeared. I would not be nice.
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
Well, Fiance is making me feel like a jerk. He’s all, “What’s the big deal? I would be upset if I couldn’t bring you to a wedding.”
Yes. He equated me to some chick that our friend recently started dating. Also, it is 2.5 weeks away. I had people ask me over the summer, and I approved their request. But the contract has been signed, man. SIGNED.