(Closed) You ask me this now?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4429 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Tangled:  it would depend on how close my relationship is with this person.

weddings are not cheap and one more person could be 55-70 extra bucks for someone you dont even know. they betta give a really good gift or a nice envelope hahaha

Post # 5
4047 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Don’t feel like a jerk! Someday he may be in your shoes and realize that adding an extra person last minute is costly. Especially with a small wedding to begin with. It’s annoying though, I agree!

Post # 6
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

People that haven’t planned a wedding just don’t know most of the time, especially if they’re younger.  My friend assumed she was invited with a date to a wedding (she wasn’t) but had no idea.  She also wanted to bring this guy she was dating, but then they stopped dating by the time the wedding rolled around and she didn’t understand why the bride was all pissed that she wanted to bring a different date.  She’s the sweetest girl ever she just had no idea.

Post # 7
887 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

you should tell him he can bring her but she can’t eat any of the food unless he wants to contact the vendor and pay for it. =P

Post # 8
6221 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

Yay for dumb boys who have no idea what goes into this stuff =/

Post # 9
1416 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I think tv shows etc ruin what people expect of +1s. Even watching shows/movies when very young I NEVER understood why somebody would bring a friend as a date to a wedding (especially since in these situations it’s always like…their sister’s wedding…so hang out with your family???) and would never have expected a +1 who wasn’t a real true long term (several years) bf or fiance or husband. None of my guests have seemed to expect to get dates either. A couple asked if they could bring gfs, we said the policy is only if you live together or are engaged, it’s $200/person and we don’t want people there we’ve never met. After a few declines we did eventually let the people who asked invite their gfs. Nobody is allowed a “date” though. And nobody has expected one. And other than family, everybody invited is under 25, so it’s not that they’re older and have been to a million weddings or anything.

Post # 10
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

My brother in law told me right after our private ceremony “oh by the way I invited a girl I met at a party this morning” (st pat’s day wedding)… I asked him if he was kidding. He was not. he said “that’s ok right?”

I said well I guess… I have to rearrange the head table (immediate family)… but she ended up sitting at another table. I don’t even think they talked much through the wedding reception. I am still a bit salty about that one. I don’t think he’s talked to her since, either.

Post # 11
1285 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Don’t feel bad! Hopefully, one day he will be planning a wedding and he will realize what a jerk he was (I certainly made some innocent mistakes as a guest prior to planning a wedding-I now realize my error and have apologize).  

Post # 12
817 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

Oh lord. How delightful. Hey, at least he asked, though, right? It could be worse. I don’t know about you but I don’t think my poker face would hold up if some random person just… appeared. I would not be nice.

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