(Closed) “you can do whatever you want and I applaud that”

posted 6 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

bahahaha. I always thought I’d change mine, but now that I’m married, I’m still deciding on whether or not I am. I know I’ll get some backlash from some people if I don’t, but I could care less. I really like my last name, and keeping it just seems so much easier!!!

Post # 4
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I didn’t change mine, no regrets 🙂

Post # 5
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7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I didn’t change, no regrets here either!

Post # 6
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2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I changed mine for my first marriage. Now, I’ll be Ali B*, M*, R* Ugh. 

Post # 7
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2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I chose to hyphenate, and didn’t get around to it until recently (we have been married for 1 1/2 years). I get so tired of people who seem to think I am/was less committed to my marriage because I didn’t jump to “take his name”. Or as one co-worker put it, hyphenating your last name is like having one foot out the door already (I wanted to punch her in the face).

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Yeah, it kind of irks me when people say “I did it because I respect my husband” or “I’m proud to be married to my husband so I wanted to take his name.”

I’m proud and respectful of my marriage too of course, what did you think, I just married him for shits and giggles?

 

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper

I hate people that get all judgy about it. I’ve gotten some crap now that we’re having a baby and she will have just DHs name. One woman was like “What, do you just not want to be a family? What kind of mother doesn’t want the same last name as her child?”

I told her that I was carrying the anti-Christ and I didn’t want her being associated with me when she brought on the apocalypse. That shut her up.

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

@KatyElle:  lol yes! this!

I don’t plan to change mine either… my son has my last name not his dads (from a previous relationship) and I’d feel bad him being the only one in my ENTIRE family with that name. Plus it’s a hassle that’s not really necessary. I get a lot of back lash from my grandmother about this but I don’t care.

Post # 13
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400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

AMEN! I had always planned to change my name but I’m coming up on our first anniversary and still haven’t. I’m not sure if I’m going to at this point. My husband is still my husband and I take my marriage just as seriously!

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@zippylef:  haha thats awesome! Personally, Im going to be taking FI’s name, but it doesnt bother me one bit what other people do. My mom hyphenated her last name when she got married (she said its a pain and wished she had gone one way or the other, but it was cool in the early 80s… haha) and I recently nannied for a family where the mom had kept her last name and the kids took their dads. I didnt think twice about it, and the only reason I really noticed was because her full name was on all of her emails and I knew the kids last names.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@zippylef:  LMFAO. You win. I cannot BELIEVE some people! I’m in academia, so I think it would be more eyebrow-raising if I *did* take my FI’s name.

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