You cant come to my wedding because WHAT?!

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 16
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736 posts
Busy bee

A guest can’t attend my wedding cause of Zika.  I guess that’s fairly exciting…

Another is dealing with the sale of a house

Post # 20
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331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

We had a weird-but-good reason for a last-minute cancellation: a friend’s dad, who hadn’t been in touch with him for several years, showed up at his house, explained he’d just gotten out of rehab, and now that he’d finally gotten his shit together he wanted to start making amends with his son. The friend texted us to see if we would understand if he spent the day with his dad instead. 

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper

carter2bee :  I’m guessing people’s panties are in a bunch because of the vaguebooking of your initial post. That and the humblebragging of your update. Just a thought. 

Post # 22
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945 posts
Busy bee

dollie87 :  some people are more touchy and sensitive than others. Just look at all the replies here that you’re getting lol. He might already have felt guilty about not attending your wedding, adding the point about it being “uncool” just makes him feel even worse and embarrassed. Not saying you’re wrong or anything, since it IS an uncool thing to do, just that he took it differently and the guilt and embarrassment made him angry. Leaving the issue at “I’m sorry to hear that, you will be missed” is probably wiser, since nobody wants to hear criticism about their decisions.

Post # 24
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217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

scissorgirl :  You couldn’t have said it better. I totally agree with you. Some people need a reality check.

Post # 25
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1981 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

We still laugh at/are bemused by one person who couldn’t attend because he always has lunch at 1pm and didn’t want to eat later. He’s in DH’s family and I’ve never met him. He doesn’t have a health condition or anything, Mother-In-Law just said he’s set in his ways and always has been. I didn’t ask for an answer as to why he declined, he offered it. He sent a generous gift which was sweet of him. Some people are just eccentric I guess!

Post # 26
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149 posts
Blushing bee

dollie87 :  That’s your idea of a gracious response? Yikes. 🤔🙈

Post # 27
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1570 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

We’ve had a surprising number of people saying that can’t attend because they have DUIs (the wedding is in Canada).

Post # 28
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6169 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

We had one person say he couldn’t attend because he thought he might have an old outstanding warrant in our state. I’d never met him before- he’s a good childhood friend of my husband’s. My husband was like- Doesn’t that seem like the kind of thing to take care of, just for your own peace of mind?

Post # 29
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461 posts
Helper bee

In my first marriage, my ex husband’s neighbors said they were not coming cause I said they could not dance ON the tables? WTH!

 

 

 

Post # 30
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1945 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

We had very few declines, they were basically on DH’s extended family side and centered around pregnancies and expected due dates and inability to fly long haul heavily pregnant, completely legit understandable reasons for that whole family unit to not attend. I also had a friend who had to take care of funeral arrangements (which obviously happened suddenly without much notice but this of course is another understandable reason he couldn’t travel abroad in the middle of that). What was more unexpected in a fabulous way were the really far away friends (South America) who we didn’t expect to attend (since our wedding was in Sweden) who RSVP yes practically first of everyone and came, it made it really special. There wasn’t any no-shows nor any unaccounted for attendees. Sorry no fun excuses to report! 

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