You cant come to my wedding because WHAT?!

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 76
Member
276 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My aunt and uncle called four days before my wedding to say they “didn’t feel like doing the drive”. It was 3.5 hours. They’d RSVP’d as attending weeks ago and we’d already paid for their plates. Never saw so much as a congratulatory card from them.

My MIL’s close friend was a no-show because she wanted to sleep in as she’d had a cold the previous week. Also no card or phone call or anything.

My co-worker’s wife was a no-show because the couple had fought the previous evening and she didn’t feel up to socializing.

Post # 77
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806 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Wedgewood Las Vegas

My hubby’s mom was a pain in the butt to convince to come to our wedding. She kept calling me and explaining different excuses…

We understood she had a fear of traveling, but we thought she’d really regret not going to her son’s wedding, so we kept gentlly pushing. To be fair, it was quite a distance for her to travel, as his parents live in Indiana, and our wedding was in Nevada.

 At one point she not only called and explained that she was now concerned about a potential EMP (electronic magnetic pulse) attack that would shut everythinig down (and WHY would you want to be in a major CITY for THAT!) but she also purchased a crappy book detailing how one would happen in the US for all her children and their spouses to read. She was adamant it was going to happen during our wedding. I kid you not. I think she ended up buyig 5-6 copies of the book to distribute to family and friends.

In the end she did travel to our wedding, and my Hubby was pleased that she finally attended a big life event for him (she missed both his highschool and college graduations).

Post # 78
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27 posts
Newbee

I am that guest!

Well at least on the face of things! I basically rsvp’d no to my cousins wedding a bit late because I wanted to wait until after my 12 week scan. My reasons were the pregnancy really but also it’s a week before Christmas and a 3 hour drive. We would also need at least one night in a hotel so it was really financially tight and I would be 6 months pregnant by then!

I did send a long detailed and very nice message to the bride to explain all of my reasons and she was very kind and understanding!

Post # 79
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7002 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

To me a no is a no, and honestly I didn’t really care what the reason was. A no RSVP doesn’t bother me in the least. We had several people RSVP no because we got married in the fall and had a kid-free wedding. Since most people would need to travel for it we totally understood it wouldn’t be possible.

The only one that offended me was an old high school friend of DH’s (well mine too, but it was a guy who was more friends with Darling Husband and my brother), “John”. We aren’t really close to him at all anymore, nor do we every really see him but Darling Husband wanted to include him. I sent him a couple of messages via facebook (since I didn’t have his number to call or text) telling him that we’re getting our guest list together and needed his address for an invite. He never replied, although I know he saw it and uses facebook regularly. One day while chatting with my brother I mentioned that we hadn’t heard from “John” and since he didn’t get back to me we were scratching him off the list. My brother sees him pretty regularly and is who told us that “John” didn’t reply because he figured that our wedding would be “all fancy and important people and he wouldn’t fit in”. Ummmmm ok.

Post # 80
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1607 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

katjen :  so you were waiting for your 12 week scan and would be six months by the time of the wedding….so then that means that the bride was expecting rsvps back roughly three months before the wedding? Pffft, any change or late responses are on her in this case. That’s way too early to ask for the RSVP deadline. You did nothing wrong. 

Post # 81
Hostess
9630 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

DH’s grandma canceled the day of our wedding because she found out that the bathrooms in the venue were downstairs, and she didn’t want to have to walk down stairs to use them o_____O 

She’s not in a wheelchair or anything… she does have some breathing problems, but it was literally like down 5-7 stairs to get to the bathroom. 

Post # 83
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27 posts
Newbee

chocochai :  yeh she was mega early requesting rsvp’s! I would like to add she never returned mine and messaged me after I chased her several times and said she was coming… very late might I add! But it wasn’t a tit for tat thing from my point of view!

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