(Closed) “You don’t want us there”

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hugs for sure.

Was this a joke?  You’ll find that weddings bring out all sorts of “funny” comments that aren’t funny at all.

Our theory for our wedding was that we would go out of our way to accommodate a specific 13 people, when coming up with a date/location.  Parents/Grandma/and wedding party.  Once we figured out something that suited them, everybody else can make it work…. or not.

Post # 5
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459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Ugh, that is so rude of him.

My extended family is kind of like that too…they all live in one state that I moved out of, and they are not very willing to travel out of state and don’t understand why anyone would hold events or live out of their state.

Post # 6
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485 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You will never please everyone… There is always going to be some conflict.  We schedule our wedding for labor day weekend.. My one aunt has a yearly BBQ out of town and my other will be celebrating her 10 year ann.  but if we tried to be considerate of all almost 30 aunts and uncles not including the almost 40 cousins Im pretty sure we would never have found a date that worked well for everyone…

Post # 7
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5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Big hugs.  That is flat-out, unambiguously rude.  Did you tell him it was because FI’s dad was sick?  Because if he had a shred of decency anywhere in his body, that would have made him feel like a shit. As well it should have.

Post # 9
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

You have to live for you and no one else.  The people who love you and really care will want to be there, drive the 15 hours, and be excited for you.  This day is about you and him sharing your love. That’s it.

Post # 11
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5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@youhavemyheart:

Oh, I’m sorry, I should have read more carefully – that’s even WORSE that he said that to your poor FI! 

I’m so sorry you have to deal with that nonsense.  Just try to remember that you have done nothing wrong.  People like your uncle have to own their choices – go or don’t go, but don’t make a fuss about it!  They are not OWED a wedding in your hometown!!  Jeez. (Annoyance directed at them, not you – I’d be in knots and/or tears over it too!)

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