(Closed) You guys, I want to cry right now

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Bee have you tried just…not trying so hard? Make it fun! Plan a nice date and then have some intimate time later…

a friend of mine years ago was on the same boat and she actually got pregnant once she stopped worrying so much and well, just decided to have fun! 

 

I know this must be frustrating but keep your chin up and try to have a positive attitude. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Try not to stress out.  I understand your concern, but you will drive yourself crazy if you schedule everything around TTC.  You have to continue to live life as well.  I totally felt this way, but now I just try to take it all in stride.  Hugs. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I can totally understand your frustration and upset. I would finish the cycle out as best you can. If you need to get tested, get tested! It sucks, but it’s better than cycling through with no answers. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

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strawberrybee9:  aww hug!  I understand!  I’m on my first round of Clomid and took it right before we went on vacation.  Well the last day of our vacation I got a positive OPK.  We didn’t have the best timing and it was frustrating. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I totally understand why you’re frustrated!  Can you fake sick and leave a bit early? 

And you don’t need to relax…ignore that “advice”.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I’m so sorry, Bee. That’s so frustrating. We’re just starting cycle 5, and I’m praying this one works-I’m likely to be away from DH in both cycles 6 and 7. It’s so hard knowing that you’re missing a chance. Big hugs.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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strawberrybee9:  just playing devil’s advocate– how do you know you ovulate right away? I know how hard it is, but try and go with the flow. You have plenty of time. Seriously. 36 isn’t old– yesterday I was having lunch with 6 women who each had children when they were in their 40s.

My advice is to put away the OPKs and thermometer and bring out the wine. Give it 3 months. If you aren’t pregnant, try opks again. Fertility testing is uncomfortable and expensive– I’d give it several more cycles before working with a RE.

I know how hard it is not to be pregnant on mothers day– I was 7 months into TTC last year. DH and I kept missing each other and when I finally got my positive OPK on CD36, DTD did not work. I was pissed. We made it work the next day and I have a 3 month old. I spent so much unnecessary time stressing and obsessively worrying, but there was nothing I could have done

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Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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milabeehappy:  Did you know there are only a few days per month when having sex can actually lead to pregnancy? If you don’t have sex in the 5ish days before and of ovulation then you won’t get pregnant, no matter how relaxed you are. Having fun will not make you fertile when you aren’t.

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strawberrybee9:  Ugh, I’m sorry. Missing a month of trying (and it sounds like you’ve missed three, going on four!) when you just want to be pregnant is the worst! Best of luck to you! I hope you can get a some good timing soon!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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strawberrybee9:  honestly I ended up getting pregnant when I least expected I would. We had been ttc for a while. I wasn’t even going to take a test till after I missed my period but I just felt so goofy and like something was off and sure enough. Try not to stress out about it too much. I know it’s easier said than done. I gave up on using opks and started charting just so it would be easier for Drs to help determine the issue if there was one. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

 

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strawberrybee9:  I agree with the previous posters to not be too hard on yourself but if I were you I would go ahead and go to the specialist.  I waited until I had been TTC for over a year because I kept thinking I was stressing myself out and once I went to the doctor they quickly discovered a problem that I will need surgery to correct before I can get pregnant.  I hope that doesn’t happen to you but now I wish I had made that appointment sooner.

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