YOU GUYS. Which is better?

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
  • poll: Which order?

    Ring shop together, give him a few options that you love to choose from, so he can propose with it.

    Let him propose with a stand in ring, then shop for the actual ring together after.

    Other ideas?

  • Post # 47
    823 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2020

    I told my SO I wanted a bezel setting because I knew he wouldn’t be familiar with the term, but beyond that I trusted his taste to match mine. He’s gotten me a couple of pieces over the years, and I wear them regularly. 

    He went looking on his own and found a boutique jeweler who made a version of a bezel setting that I like even better than the bezels I had seen online from the larger names. 

    He also decided to have the ring made with recycled platinum and a Canadian diamond, which I really like but would not have required since I know it raised the price. 

    Post # 48
    1237 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    When my husband and I started planning to get engaged, I was looking at Pinterest a lot and kept finding myself drawn to these gorgeous vintage designs that you don’t see much in stores or even online (or I couldn’t really find them at the time). I found a site that sold vintage and reproductions, and there were 2 rings I loved different elements of. With help from the Bee, I learned about David Klass and moissanite, and we agreed since I had such a specific design in mind, it would need to be custom made. When we were dating, my husband had picked out jewelry for me a couple of times before thatwasn’t really my style, so he was more than happy to let me design my own ring (which we split the cost of). He did have some input – when we were considering whether to get a diamond or a moissanite, what kind of metal to use. Since we saved money by choosing moissanite and I told him white gold would need to be redipped periodically, he was adamant that I have platinum.

    When the ring was ready, we told the jeweler to ship it to my husband at his office without informing me, and he planned the proposal. It was perfect for us – I don’t care for suprises in general, but especially not for something I want to wear every day – and he still got an element of surprise in the *when* it happened, and the romantic proposal itself. He did it right before Thanksgiving, so we traveled to see my family and friends a day or so later and we got to show it off 🙂 . It’s funny, he got a lot of compliments on the ring but proudly told people that it was my design, and was informing everyone about moissanite and how it was discovered on a meteor. I still admire my ring all the time! 

    Post # 49
    101 posts
    Blushing bee

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    ladama :  haha yeah that’s one of the reasons why we changed to having it custom made because there were ones I obviouly favored and I was scared I would have my heart set on one and him pick another lol! Even if you said something about a specific ring, I think it’s just helping him during his process of choosing, and feel it would still be a surprise! 

    Post # 50
    503 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: City, State

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    ladama :  My boyfriend and I just went to check out rings for the first time yesterday and I enjoyed sharing that experience together, and I’m looking forward to seeing what he picks now that he knows what I like. Checking out rings might be a treasured memory for you two 🙂

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