(Closed) You haven’t seen Bridezilla yet…(Vent)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Um… have you tried telling him that it bothers you first? 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

That would be a no. I agree that you should try talking to him first.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

No.  Talk to him first.  He may think he is joking, and regardless of whther or not you think its funny, he might.  Laugh it off (if he is saying it jokingly) and let it roll.  Tell him that you know he thinks it is funny, but it genuinely offends you.  Dont use that psychology on him, it rarely ends well…

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Not a good tactic, you’re just going to prove that his assumptions that you are being a bridezilla are true.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I wouldn’t stoop to his level.  Explain to him that his comments hurt your feelings and even if it’s a joke it hurts. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Well, my first impression upon reading your post is, if you are so busy living up to people’s expectations of you being a b*%$…then why should they think you are anything different?  If my friend/acquaintence is always acting like a B, then how am I supposed to know there is a nice person hidden under the witchy exterior?  So, I really don’t understand your reasoning there…just seems a bit, well, bitchy. lol

As for going bridezilla on your Fiance, I would highly advise against that.  Talk to him and let him know it bothers you.  You may think you’re being nice and calm, but to him, maybe you are acting like a zilla and you both have concerns you need to voice.  In any case, going crazy on him just to show him what you’re capable of doesn’t seem like the most mature approach to handle things.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I feel you! There’s nothing more annoying than being called something you are not D:< Especially when you know you could be a helluva lot worse but choose not to. My roomies accuse me of being a bitch about wasting elextricity when all I do is ask that they turn off the light to rooms they are not in!

…But I suppose talking to ur manwould help as well ;P

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I personally would say “Hey listen, you’re the one who wanted this weddding so you plan it, then I can call you a grromzilla.” and laugh.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@baldor1: ummm.. honestly? I’d rather embarass him by getting upset and angry for him hurting me than have him continiously doing it.  (if you’re a REALLY good actress, a few tears never hurts… 😉 just sayin’… it’ll make HIM look bad and feel bad for hurting you so much.)

or, you can just blow up at him and say you’re tired of his hurting comments, that you don’t appreciate them, they don’t come off as jokes, etc and then storm off in an angry/upset stupor (yes, that DOES work… though I recommend it when he’s not around his friends… if that’s when it happens, glare at him, and storm off angry/upset.  hopefully he’ll follow to find out what’s wrong… THEN you can tell him off.)

so, soooo sorry you’ve gotta deal with just typical male-jokes, especially since they’re from your FI!!!!

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