Post # 1
I am the type of person who doesn’t get offended with being called a bitch. I know I am not one. But if people think I am, somehow I feel it gives me the license to become one because I know there is little that I can do to change their opinion. And since that is how they feel, I might as well live up to it. I feel it is easier to live up to the expectations of what people think of me, rather than try to convince people that I am living up to the expectation of what they think I should be.
So here comes Bridezilla…it really irks me when the Fiance makes jokes of my being a Bridezilla. I know I am not one and I try very hard not to be one, yet the jokes keep rolling. The Bridezilla jokes are no different than the Wifey jokes, or PMS jokes. I am very tempted to go Bridezilla on him to let him see what I am REALLY capable of. Then maybe he’ll realize that the non-Bridezilla me isn’t too bad.
Does anyone feel the same way? Am I alone in this?
Post # 3
Um… have you tried telling him that it bothers you first?
Post # 4
That would be a no. I agree that you should try talking to him first.
Post # 5
No. Talk to him first. He may think he is joking, and regardless of whther or not you think its funny, he might. Laugh it off (if he is saying it jokingly) and let it roll. Tell him that you know he thinks it is funny, but it genuinely offends you. Dont use that psychology on him, it rarely ends well…
Post # 6
Not a good tactic, you’re just going to prove that his assumptions that you are being a bridezilla are true.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t stoop to his level. Explain to him that his comments hurt your feelings and even if it’s a joke it hurts.
Post # 8
Well, my first impression upon reading your post is, if you are so busy living up to people’s expectations of you being a b*%$…then why should they think you are anything different? If my friend/acquaintence is always acting like a B, then how am I supposed to know there is a nice person hidden under the witchy exterior? So, I really don’t understand your reasoning there…just seems a bit, well, bitchy. lol
As for going bridezilla on your Fiance, I would highly advise against that. Talk to him and let him know it bothers you. You may think you’re being nice and calm, but to him, maybe you are acting like a zilla and you both have concerns you need to voice. In any case, going crazy on him just to show him what you’re capable of doesn’t seem like the most mature approach to handle things.
Post # 9
Yes, of course I have spoken to him about it. But he seems to think I am joking, just like he thinks he is, when I tell him to stop. I know the best way for him to stop is to nip it when it happens. Telling him to stop as he is telling the joke, but that would embarass him in front of his friends, and make me the Bridezilla I am trying not to be. I seem to be in a catch 22. Darn if I do, darn if I don’t.
It doesn’t help too that he is the one who wants the wedding. If it were up to me, I would elope to Vegas or get married at a courthouse. So here I am, getting accused of being Bridezilla, planning a wedding a didn’t want in the first place.
It’s very frustrating…
Post # 10
I feel you! There’s nothing more annoying than being called something you are not D:< Especially when you know you could be a helluva lot worse but choose not to. My roomies accuse me of being a bitch about wasting elextricity when all I do is ask that they turn off the light to rooms they are not in!
…But I suppose talking to ur manwould help as well ;P
Post # 11
@MadameLady: Thank you! That’s exactly what I meant. Being accused of being something I am not, especially knowing it could be worse but isn’t. I am glad someone can relate. 🙂
Post # 12
I personally would say “Hey listen, you’re the one who wanted this weddding so you plan it, then I can call you a grromzilla.” and laugh.
Post # 13
@baldor1: ummm.. honestly? I’d rather embarass him by getting upset and angry for him hurting me than have him continiously doing it. (if you’re a REALLY good actress, a few tears never hurts… 😉 just sayin’… it’ll make HIM look bad and feel bad for hurting you so much.)
or, you can just blow up at him and say you’re tired of his hurting comments, that you don’t appreciate them, they don’t come off as jokes, etc and then storm off in an angry/upset stupor (yes, that DOES work… though I recommend it when he’s not around his friends… if that’s when it happens, glare at him, and storm off angry/upset. hopefully he’ll follow to find out what’s wrong… THEN you can tell him off.)
so, soooo sorry you’ve gotta deal with just typical male-jokes, especially since they’re from your FI!!!!